Have you ever been with a guy that just never seemed capable of getting their shit together while you were dating? If you have, you know how frustrating it can be to feel let down by his inability to step up to the plate and handle his business. Maybe he procrastinates a little too much, doesn’t take his future as seriously as he should, or is just flat-out lazy. The day comes when you finally dump him, and it seems like the huge weight of his poor decisions has been lifted off of your shoulders. Good riddance…right? Fast forward to the future and your ex looks hauntingly good and doing even better. In fact, he’s somehow morphed into the man you’ve always wanted – but he’s now that man with another woman.
I personally think that this is every woman’s worst nightmare. Mainly because it’s hard not to be crippled by regrets and thoughts of “What if?” What if you were a little more patient? What if you tried a little harder? Right? When you’re in love with someone, it’s natural to want what’s best for them. (Read “Are You Dating the Person, Promise, or Penis? Here…)But at some point, you have to realize that you can’t force anyone to do or be anything until they’re ready to do so. Timing, it’s all about timing boo. Maybe he was destined to be the exact man he has become, just not with you.
So, before you go and find the new girl’s social media profiles and pick apart everything you think you know about your ex and the lady in his life. Or make it your business to remind everyone that he wasn’t shit while you two were together…DON’T! Because everything happens for a reason and you’re only making yourself look crazy. Instead, try to find comfort in knowing that the time you two shared wasn’t for nothing. Accept that both of you have grown as a result of the romance you once had. Cause believe me; ain’t nothing cute about being petty and upset!