It’s safe to say that therapy has been one of the hottest topics of discussion over the last few years. I remember once upon a time, if someone admitted to seeking or needing therapy, there was a negative stigma that seemed to follow them. History shows that the survival of the fittest has been the law of the land. So, society’s increased acceptance and understanding of one’s need for therapy without passing judgment is huge step in the right direction. Continue Reading
Hello 2018! I hope you all had a FABULOUS holiday and that you all are ready to kick this year in the butt! Being that most of us start the new year with new aspirations and goals in mind, I thought it was a good idea to revisit an old post of mine. (Originally posted at my sister site – Spot 86). I want to start by telling you guys that I am in no way, shape, or form perfect. There are days that I wake up stressed, discouraged, or anxious. I have a tendency to put huge amounts of pressure on myself. As I approached this new year, I couldn’t shake that feeling. Like what I was doing, or my goals weren’t good enough. Continue Reading
A few weeks ago, I posed a question on my Facebook about women that say they don’t get along with other women. Then like fate, my sister from another mister (in my mind at least) Issa Rae tweeted something along the lines of – “I feel sorry or women who don’t have female friends.” Quite honestly, I couldn’t agree more. There’s something about having a connection with other women that can’t be replaced by relationships with men. And if you ask me – in this cold ass world, a woman needs her girlfriend(s)!
I’m sure by now most of you heard of rapper Kodak Black openly expressing his disdain for black women on his Instagram a few days ago. After catching hell, he then proceeds to spell it out saying that he doesn’t like dark-skinned women (black bitches according to him) and prefers to date women that are light-skinned (aka “yellow hoes” – his words, not mine!).
I think the general consensus amongst all black women (emphasis on ALL, light and dark) can be summed up as: NO ONE WANTS YOU! That being said, this young (and clearly ignorant) fella is not the first or last to express these types of thoughts. This light versus dark crap has been going on for far too long if you ask me. I think it’s safe to say that black women are one of the most criticized groups of people in society (just to be clear – I did not say the only group). Continue Reading