Have you ever looked at your partner and thought that all that has gone wrong in your relationship is their fault? Like you two would have more sex if they were more affectionate. Your communication would be better if they’d stop shutting down. This vicious cycle, my friends, is known as “the blame game.” It’s like a ping-pong match between two people that involves shifting responsibility for everything that’s gone wrong between them. The back and forth can make your head spin if you’re not careful.
Ever liked someone and they suddenly vanished out of your life without warning? You two talk pretty much every day, have gone on plenty of dates, and become close. This person really has the potential to be your next boo thing; and then all of a sudden POOF! They’re gone, suddenly evaporate into thin air like a ghost, with no rhyme or reason. I call this ghosting or being ghosted, and it can happen to any of us – no one is safe. As with many of the things that can go wrong when it comes to dating, being ghosted is another risk to add to the list. And although the idea of it happening to you may seem mortifying, the person that’s ghosted you may have done you a favor. Continue Reading
Have you ever been with a guy that just never seemed capable of getting their shit together while you were dating? If you have, you know how frustrating it can be to feel let down by his inability to step up to the plate and handle his business. Maybe he procrastinates a little too much, doesn’t take his future as seriously as he should, or is just flat-out lazy. The day comes when you finally dump him, and it seems like the huge weight of his poor decisions has been lifted off of your shoulders. Good riddance…right? Fast forward to the future and your ex looks hauntingly good and doing even better. In fact, he’s somehow morphed into the man you’ve always wanted – but he’s now that man with another woman.
As if trying to meet someone that you’re attracted to, compatible with, and interested in isn’t hard enough…add a couple bad dates into the mix and you may want to throw the towel in on dating altogether. After a bad date, you start asking yourself “Maybe being single isn’t that bad after all” or “Why me?!” Trust me, I get it! I, myself, am no stranger to the bad date. In fact, I can remember one quite vividly that sent me home in tears by the end of the night (I’m highly emotional, don’t judge me). Looking back on it now, I definitely would’ve handled that situation differently. But hey, you live and you learn right? If that horrible date never happened, I wouldn’t be able to share some of my knowledge with you!
There’s nothing I love more than to pour myself a glass of wine, indulge in my favorite sweets and tune in to watch Iyanla Vanzant come in and try to help people get their shit together. Her show “Iyanla Fix My Life” addresses some hard issues people are dealing with on a daily basis. Maybe it’s due to the fact that I, myself, love helping others and giving advice, or that I always end up with a lesson learned at the end of the hour-long show. Whatever it is, I’m hooked! Continue Reading