It Was Fun While It Lasted???

HBO's Insecure is easily one of my favorite shows. It’s raw, fun, REAL, and extremely entertaining! I’m so excited and ready for season 2! Just to hold me over, I've been watching old episodes from season 1 over the last few days. One of my favorite moments  was when Molly reconnected with this great guy Jared. The two were super cute together and Jared really seemed to be everything that Molly was looking for. Things were going great until he was a little too honest over dinner and revealed that he once had relations with a man. Molly was clearly shocked by his honesty and almost immediately turned off. Initially she opts to put her apprehension to the side, but finally concludes that she simply can’t look past it, no matter how great of a guy he was. A not quite similar situation happened with a friend of mine. She met a guy, and really liked him until one night he showed her what he was working with and she was just not impressed! So I got to thinking - isn’t it crazy how you can meet someone and really like them and then instantly be turned off?

I think we’ve all been put in this situation at one time or another. You can meet someone and be all about them. The conversations can be stimulating, the connection can be great and then all of a sudden, they do that one thing that turns you completely off. Maybe it was something they said, something they did, a smell or something super random. But at that moment the attraction instantly vanishes and you find yourself staring at them like “WTF am I doing here?!” Situations like this happen very often. So when this occurs, do you feel compelled to end things right then and there or do you insist on sticking it out because you don’t want to hurt their feelings?

What we had was fun.” I explain. ......“Seriously Jade? What happened after three months? What changed?” He questions.......Then I finally say, “You said you loved me while we were having sex and then you cried.”

— Jade & Brandon, Characters from Dilemmas Of a Damsel

Much like Jade, the main character from my upcoming novel Dilemmas Of a Damsel, I simply cannot deal with someone I’m not attracted to. Kudos to those of you that can, but I’m a horrible liar! If I’m not attracted to you – trust me you will know. But unlike Jade, I hate hurting people’s feelings and often opt to break things off by playing the “Let’s be friends” card. I'm sure a lot of you use that line too.

I don’t think anything about breakups are easy. There are so many things that can go wrong. What if they completely flip out? What if they become a psycho stalker?  Honestly, you have to look past all that and stick to your guns. Don’t apologize for your feelings. It’s better to be upfront and end things when you know that they don’t have a shot in hell, versus leading them on. So what are some of your awkward breakup stories? How did you handle it?



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