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    Jayda
    October 7, 2019 at 5:39 pm

    🙌🏾 Girl, i needed this one. You hit the nail right on the head when you said you can’t shop away the pain, cause that’s my go to. I’m gonna try writing it out tho

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      Monique Elise
      October 8, 2019 at 11:28 am

      Haha! Yes! I’m speaking from experience… I’ve tried all of that!! Only for the hurt that I never thought was there to creep up and bite me in the ass years later! Try writing it out though, I think it will help you a lot! Thanks for stopping by!

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    Ashakia
    August 15, 2019 at 6:02 pm

    I just implemented my budget and the zero based budget works great me for , thanks for sharing 💕

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      Monique Elise
      August 17, 2019 at 2:07 pm

      Zero-based is definitely one of my favorites! Thanks for stopping by <3

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    Sha
    August 2, 2019 at 2:37 pm

    It literally starts with you… (the females). Once you want and know better, you do better.

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      Monique Elise
      August 6, 2019 at 6:19 pm

      I agree!

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    Joanne Reed
    August 2, 2019 at 2:34 am

    Oxytocin, a woman who just chases that high is like a mouse who fails to get the cheese, tries again without kicking herself for being an idiot.

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      Monique Elise
      August 2, 2019 at 1:12 pm

      I’d take it further and say anyone doing that. But people make mistakes, you just have to be willing to recognize the patterns and seek help!

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    Ambriana
    August 1, 2019 at 9:20 pm

    girl, you read me like a book ! 😭 we know better but refuse to do better!

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      Monique Elise
      August 2, 2019 at 1:11 pm

      It’s so true!!! We have to put an end to it or they’ll continue to act like fools!

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    Ambriana
    July 18, 2019 at 6:59 pm

    I’m gonna do some research and find a facial steamer! Girl, you may have just put me on because my pores are always clogged 😭

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      Monique Elise
      July 18, 2019 at 11:35 pm

      Get one!! It’s like a sauna for your face!

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    Vanessa
    June 20, 2019 at 3:36 pm

    I love reading these! I’m a budget snob in theory… meaning I budget EVERYTHING but often dont stick within said budget 😫 but iver the last few months I started “no spend” months. If it doesn’t fit within my set budget, sorry but it had to go. I was blown away with how much I was able to save by eliminating unnecessary sh*t. I went from spending upwards of 4k a month (mostly unecessarily) to saving almost 2k a month that I didnt even realize I COULD save. Also, love the snowball method 🙌 great work girl!

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      Monique Elise
      June 24, 2019 at 4:21 pm

      Isn’t it so empowering once you realize what you can REALLY do when you’re mindful with your money?! So glad that you’re taking control, I know it’s not always easy – especially with summer upon us!! Thanks for stopping by love xoxo

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    Bryant
    June 3, 2019 at 6:37 pm

    Great Blog. My ex found me last summer after 16 years apart. She claimed to regret cheating, marrying that man, but ultimately had two kids. I was hesitant but I was single, she is still as beautiful as ever and we laughed and loved for a few months. Then, bam, the flip of the switch, insecurities of my ex, manifestations, and various other things. All along I was loyal and yet I realized I was being setup for failure regardless.

    Fast forward ten months and she’s disappeared without a word. Just like 16 years ago. I say the past is behind us for a reason. Keep up the good work.

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      Monique Elise
      June 3, 2019 at 7:01 pm

      Hi Bryant! Thanks for stopping by… so sorry you had to go through that! Lesson learned!

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    minimalistmiri
    May 10, 2019 at 7:41 pm

    This is great — there is no magical to find the perfect person and it’s more important to have a good relationship with yourself before you have a relationship with someone else. I actually met my husband when I stopped worrying about being single, stopping looking for the one, and was just enjoying being myself.

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    Jasmine M
    May 10, 2019 at 3:27 pm

    When it comes to dating, I think the main thing is definitely making sure that you know yourself and that you genuinely care about yourself as well as love yourself. I know I personally made bad decisions with allowing myself to continue dating someone that I knew I shouldn’t have been dating. I think that a lot of people see red flags and continue pushing forward when they should let things go. One thing I learned is that you need to know what you need and what qualities are a must have for the person you would truly want to be with. If someone displays qualities that don’t fit with what you need, then let them go versus settling.

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    Czjai Reyes-Ocampo
    May 10, 2019 at 1:14 pm

    They say don’t find love, let love find you. Worked for me, and I ended up marrying ‘the one’ after five years of dating. 🙂

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    Erika
    May 10, 2019 at 1:26 am

    You’re right. Finding love starts with yourself. Great post!

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    Chad
    May 10, 2019 at 12:29 am

    This is great Monique and I agree with you, there is no secret recipe to this shit lol!!! The start is you 100% know yourself, love yourself are key.

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      Monique Elise
      May 10, 2019 at 1:01 am

      Hi Chad! Thanks for stopping by! So glad you enjoyed my post and yes I agree 100%!

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    Gillian
    April 11, 2019 at 6:03 pm

    Babe, I get where you coming with the 9-5 thing. I haven’t worked in a office for 3 years and now I got a job in office space. Not my ideal job but it pays the bills and allows me to enjoy my lifestyle. But my ultimate goal is to have a steady income doing what my heart desires. Thank you so much for sharing this. Staying organized is very important.

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      Monique Elise
      April 12, 2019 at 3:42 pm

      Thank you so much for stopping by! So glad you were able to find a situation that works for you. At the end of the day, that’s all that matters!

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    YonnahSays.com
    March 19, 2019 at 1:11 pm

    Okay slightly long comment, but it’s all to say this advice is spot on. I have 10 credit cards. Yes, TEN! So, I was using them all responsibly until I began struggling with my classes and my hours at work were cut. Soooo, racked up about $8000 in debt. Happy to say that I’ve been doing these steps since September and I now only owe $500 that will be paid by the end of next month. Great post. More should read it because simply paying the minimum on all does no good. Will share 🤗

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      Monique Elise
      March 19, 2019 at 6:12 pm

      Wow that is amazing!! Congratulations! I’m so glad you liked my post thanks for stopping by xoxo

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    Alicia
    March 7, 2019 at 2:48 pm

    This is exactly what I needed to read. I’m just glad I’m not the only one dealing with crazy debt. Great advice!

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      Monique Elise
      March 7, 2019 at 2:59 pm

      You’re not alone! It’s way more common than you think girl. Lol I was so embarrassed for so long.

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    Tina
    February 21, 2019 at 2:41 pm

    This is such a good read. We have to learn how to check ourselves before we point the finger!

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      Monique Elise
      February 21, 2019 at 6:58 pm

      Thank you so much Tina! It’s so hard to do at times but it’s so necessary! Especially if you want your relationship to work. Thanks for stopping by xoxo

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    Dave
    February 7, 2019 at 5:29 pm

    Great read! Tell us more about this zero-based budget!!!!

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      Monique Elise
      February 9, 2019 at 5:22 pm

      I definitely plan to! I’ll be detailing the exact methods I’ve been using to eliminate my debt very soon, stay tuned!(PS your email is hilarious) XOXO

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    Courtney Curry
    January 28, 2019 at 2:27 pm

    Social media can definitely b e a gift and a curse! I’m glad your break proved to be beneficial though. Try not t compare yourself to anyone else babe. That’s the easiest way to diagnose yourself with lower self esteem. Comparison is the thief of joy, so don’t let it steal yours! Keep pushing mama, you’re amazing!

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      Monique Elise
      January 28, 2019 at 6:46 pm

      Thank you so much Courtney! You’re so right, it’s so easy to get caught up! I appreciate your support xoxo

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    Kate
    January 11, 2019 at 1:40 am

    I am so guilty of falling short of my new year resolution/goal. That’s why this year I set realistic and obtainable goals that I knew I would stick to, this post was great.

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    Toni
    January 11, 2019 at 12:19 am

    A NYE resolution should DEFINITELY be an on-going thing versus waiting all year to suddenly change. The reason only 9% of people actually commit to their resolution, as you stated, is because their goal is not parallel to their reality.

    Very good article Monique!

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    Tina
    January 10, 2019 at 11:31 pm

    Knowing your why is so important. Everything falls in line after that!

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    Courtney
    January 10, 2019 at 5:20 pm

    This was an amazing article and so true! You hit so many nails on the head, but I think what resonates with me most is not waiting and tomorrow and knowing your why! It’s so easy to try to live someone else’s dream, because of how it looks on the outside. But making your goals resonate with YOUR purpose is the only way to truly achieve them.

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      Monique Elise
      January 10, 2019 at 6:36 pm

      Thank you so much for stopping by! I couldn’t agree more. Doing anything other than what’s meant for you will leave you feeling stressed and discouraged!

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    Ciara
    December 1, 2018 at 1:07 am

    You crossed my mind today. Hope you’re well love and creating. Don’t stop creating! 💋

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      Monique Elise
      December 7, 2018 at 1:49 pm

      Aww hey love!! How are you? I promise I won’t <3 Happy Holidays!

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    Tina
    September 27, 2018 at 4:20 pm

    Amen to this; they’re just making room for the right person to enter your life!

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    Courtney Consuella
    September 27, 2018 at 4:01 pm

    I agree with you 100% that you should be thankful when someone “ghosts” you. To be frank, I’m too damn grown to be playing with Ghost and realized Casper was fake a long time ago. If people are in the head space where they just disappear without reason, then you don’t need them in your life anyway. On to the next!

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    Toni
    September 27, 2018 at 3:54 pm

    Good read! I’m a stickler for “Cotrolling Your Crazy”. You’re so right! It’s a blessing when the guy you THOUGHT was a good catch, goes missing. He can stay as a ghost for all I’m concerned!

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    Kate
    September 27, 2018 at 3:40 pm

    Loved reading this! I swear it’s like reading my entire dating life in a post. What I loved most was the “there just not that into you part” lol, sometimes that’s a hard pill for my pride to swallow. Great post girl!

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    Abina George
    September 13, 2018 at 5:19 pm

    This article was so important because many people don’t realize that being bitter steals your own happiness away and doesn’t allow for healing.

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      Monique Elise
      September 16, 2018 at 7:59 pm

      Exactly!!! Thanks for reading love!

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    Megan @ Pixieskies
    August 17, 2018 at 4:34 pm

    This is definitely something I need to remind myself of more often. Pettiness ain’t pretty and such

    -pixieskiesblog.wordpress.com xo

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    Patrice Amöre
    August 17, 2018 at 12:57 pm

    awesome post! I would like for you to guest blog on my website please. For more information check out my wordpress blog!

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    LaToya
    August 17, 2018 at 1:42 am

    This happened to my friend and it bothered her so badly. You live and learn and move on. Thank you for sharing! 🤗

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    Courtney
    August 16, 2018 at 8:08 pm

    Girl this ain’t nothing but the truth. Fortunately, I haven’t had that happen, but in the event that it does. I promise to try not to be upset and petty 😂

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    Jackline Kantanka
    August 16, 2018 at 3:00 pm

    Sometimes two people are not meant to be. It’s no ones fault. It just is. Great article.

    http://www.sincerelymissj.com

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    LeaveInspired, By Tysheira
    August 16, 2018 at 2:33 pm

    Thank you for writing about this! This happened to me and I was filled with so much anger. I felt like I built him up to
    be what I needed for someone else. I had to come to peace with exactly what you wrote about. Keep writing, someone is gonna need your voice 💕

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    Astin
    August 16, 2018 at 12:14 pm

    Wow….! LOL. Not sure whether to laugh or just get re-angry again! Yes, 5 years later, I wanna get MAD, AGAIN! LOL. 🙂 THIS RIGHT Here – WOW… This hit home for me. LOL. Simple things I did for HIM, helped HIM with the next chick. Ha. Wow. Thanks for this one, Monique!

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    Brittany Sharnez
    August 4, 2018 at 7:16 am

    Agreed. I’m 24 and although I do hope to get married and have at least 1 child before 30 right not I’m single with no prospects and seriously focused on my career. Sure I have days where I am a bit concerned about my future love life but with my career being so shaky I often reason it’s for the best that I’m single cause neither kids or marriage is cheap.

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    Fre’Drecia
    August 3, 2018 at 1:32 pm

    Awesome post!! Currently in my drafts I have a post similar to this. I just got engaged but the pressure that was there was crazy. You are definitely right about not rushing timing is everything.

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    Nkem
    August 3, 2018 at 6:05 am

    “It’s like our womanhood isn’t solidified until we add motherhood and marriage to our roster.” This!!!!! I’m about to be 25 myself and have started receiving comments as well. I try to block them out, but honestly, you can only do so much. This post was empowering! You keep doing you, girl! It’s your life and you should live it according to youself. <3
    -Nkem
    http://www.nkemistry.love

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    Tiffany Yong
    July 11, 2018 at 5:32 pm

    I panic when certain things go out of my control and you are right about not setting too high an expectations to prevent disappointment. I guess this is good for handling unnecessary troubles

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    Ana Vukosavljevic
    July 5, 2018 at 10:19 pm

    I totally agree with you, acceptance and adaptation is key to everything! And oh my, you are so beautiful and this dress fits you perfectly!

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    Autumn Murray
    July 4, 2018 at 5:22 pm

    I agree that there is nothing wrong with wanting better for yourself and having a plan. I just need to sit down and create a plan!

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    Fauzia
    July 3, 2018 at 9:18 pm

    A lovely blog. I suppose you can expect in certain situations, where you have put in 100%.

    Fauzia
    http://Glamourandglamorous.com

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    Olena
    July 3, 2018 at 6:16 pm

    Thanks for giving me 3 reminders I truly needed!

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      Monique Elise
      July 5, 2018 at 1:56 pm

      You’re welcome!

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    Olayiwola
    July 3, 2018 at 3:31 pm

    Accepting the things you can’t change is vital – someone once told me if you cant change something disdain it! Lets say i really want an iPhone and i cant afford it i would say iPhone is too expensive its probably not worth it …lol

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    Nati
    July 3, 2018 at 12:11 pm

    Your article is wise and comes to me in a perfect timing. In fact, I am not a person with high expectations, I use to say “I get what life wants to give me”. Yes, it is true, however, I also work my as* off to get what I want, but with the inner awareness that I might not get it. This has worked for me most times, but it has also been a negative thing for me. I read a lot lately “you have to work hard and want it harder in order to be successful”. But saying this puts too much pressure on people, because they generate false expectations. It’s not true! sometimes you can desire it hard and work even harder and still not get it, because it does not depend on you totally. Most people omit to mention there is a part of luck (or fate, or whatever you want to call it) because they think that this will diminish their merits. Well, there you go, I was caught by these thoughts when I found your article and I thought “how appropriate!”

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      Monique Elise
      July 5, 2018 at 1:59 pm

      Hey Nati! I’m so glad you enjoyed my post! I have to say that I agree with you! Fate/luck does play into it as well.

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    Preet
    July 3, 2018 at 10:53 am

    This is so lovely! How I wish I was as talented and could pull off such a look.
    I love this outfit it fits together really well.

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      Monique Elise
      July 5, 2018 at 2:00 pm

      Thank you!

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    Nailil
    July 3, 2018 at 2:24 am

    Love this post and your outfit is on point. Come link up at the Trendy Thursday LinkUp Party sometime. 😉

    Nailil
    http://www.thirtyminusone.com

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    Kesha Holloway
    July 3, 2018 at 1:40 am

    I think so many people focus on the things they can’t change that it causes them to forget about perfecting the things they do have control over. Letting go is probably the best thing that most of us can do for ourselves and for those closest to us. Marriage has taught me that I can’t control everything I must trust my husband. I now have a partner and don’t have to do life alone or strive for perfectionism.

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      Monique Elise
      July 5, 2018 at 2:01 pm

      You’re so right Kesha!

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    Ashley
    July 3, 2018 at 12:42 am

    You touched on a true topic with expectations vs. reality and goals! Our expectations can cause possible disappointments which is why we should definitely have an open mind like you mentioned!

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    kumamonjeng
    July 2, 2018 at 11:32 pm

    The more expecatations we have for others, the sadder we will be. But then we certainly need to set right expectation for ourselves, our goal at least. Really inspiring post.

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    Elizabeth O
    July 2, 2018 at 8:39 pm

    This is a really good post. I definitely got inspired to let go of some things that have been chewing at me for a while. Really great advice.

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    Sandy
    July 1, 2018 at 8:11 pm

    I love your point about acceptance is key. I tend to be a control-freak and letting go is hard to do. I need to work on this one for sure!

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    Monidipa
    July 1, 2018 at 3:01 pm

    Sometimes accepting things are hard but we should. Having an open mind helps it but not always. The points you have mentioned here if anyone reads it deeply they can understand that every point is related to eachother

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    Amanda Rosson
    June 26, 2018 at 11:47 pm

    Great post! Very poignant and timely! I too love strong, liberated women like Beyonce and Rihanna and see them as role models. I actually haven’t heard of Adina Howard before but I will definitely check her and her music out now!

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      Monique Elise
      July 5, 2018 at 2:01 pm

      Thank you Amanda!

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    Amanda Rosson
    June 26, 2018 at 10:25 pm

    Congrats on your first year! I can definitely relate a lot to your story even after doing this for many years. Sounds like you’ve learned a lot and I wish you and your blog the best and many more years!

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    Alexine
    June 26, 2018 at 9:13 pm

    Rihanna and Beyoncé are my favorite as well, I love them as a singer and as a person. I guess it depends on women on how they’ll define liberated. Personally, we are now in a different modern time and people are changing and more open. To be liberated mean to express one’s desire not only via physical exposure.

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    Alexine
    June 26, 2018 at 8:28 pm

    Congratulations to you! One year is achieved! Blogging is indeed a hard job to do. More successs to you and more projects! two thumbs up for all your efforts, cheers!

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    Karla
    June 26, 2018 at 1:31 pm

    I really enjoyed reading your article and I totally agree with you! In fact, Rihanna and Beyonce are one of my favorite artists! Great post!

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      Monique Elise
      July 5, 2018 at 2:02 pm

      Thank you!

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    Elizabeth O
    June 26, 2018 at 11:15 am

    Congratulations on your first year! You are doing an amazing job, heres to many more successful years of blogging!

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      Monique Elise
      July 5, 2018 at 2:02 pm

      Thank you so much!

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    maria
    June 26, 2018 at 10:58 am

    I love the central idea that you are trying to convey here. To be yourself is the most accomplishing things a person especially a women can ever do.

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      Monique Elise
      July 5, 2018 at 2:19 pm

      Hi Maria! Thank you xoxo

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    kumamonjeng
    June 26, 2018 at 10:07 am

    Rihanna and Beyonce as also my favorite artist, love their songs, dance and confidence on stage. Totally agree with you that we ahve a voice, we shall use it and the power is ours.

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    maria
    June 26, 2018 at 10:01 am

    Congratulations for completing your one year here
    I wish you more in the years to come

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    Karla
    June 26, 2018 at 6:35 am

    Congratulations! Many more years to go! Keep going! Thank you for creating this inspiring post!

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    Twinspirational
    June 26, 2018 at 3:45 am

    We love Beyonce and Rihanna too. Their music is fabulous and they are such strong women. Love the last line in your post- it’s so true.

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    Davindra Ramnarine
    June 26, 2018 at 3:43 am

    Ignore those people who try to bring you down. The only one who can stop you from achieving your goal is you.

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    Twinspirational
    June 26, 2018 at 3:26 am

    Congrats on your blog-versary! We’ve learned so much over the past year of blogging. Good luck in year 2.

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    Trina Dinnar
    June 26, 2018 at 12:34 am

    It’s amazing how far women’s rights have evolved. I’m a fan of Rihanna and Beyonce also!

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    veronica@inveronicascorner
    June 25, 2018 at 10:49 pm

    I love it and congratulations for hitting this milestone! Wishing you many more years of success in all you do.

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    Holly Lasha
    June 25, 2018 at 10:09 pm

    Congratulations. One year is a big accomplishment. You should be proud of yourself for sure.

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    Holly Lasha
    June 25, 2018 at 10:01 pm

    Excellent viewpoint. I love where you are coming from with this. Thanks for the encouraging words!!

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    Paige Marie
    June 25, 2018 at 3:10 pm

    I enjoyed reading your post! Very inspirational!

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    Nati
    June 25, 2018 at 2:47 pm

    Congratulations for your first year an for many many more! You’ve learnt a lot in this path and you’ll keep growing!

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    Sue Tanya Mchorgh
    June 25, 2018 at 1:40 pm

    Wohoo. Congrats on making it through your first year. I am sure you learnt a lot.

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    Joanna
    June 25, 2018 at 9:04 am

    Happy one year anniversary! Blogging is not easy, it might start out of fun but soon enough people realise how much work it involves and give up. Good on you that you didn’t! 🙂

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    Davindra
    June 25, 2018 at 3:43 am

    Congratulations on your first year. Here’s to many more to come!

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    TheSocial Nubian
    June 25, 2018 at 1:08 am

    Congratulations and best of luck on everything. Have you ever thought about guest blogging with a cross collaboration guest blog. It would help alot; even having guest bloggers on your site that focuses on your brand.

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    Trina Dinnar
    June 25, 2018 at 12:01 am

    Congratulations on your one year anniversary! Kudos to you too for being a novelist — how exciting!

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    Paige Marie
    June 24, 2018 at 1:33 pm

    Congratulations on your 1st year! Your post is very inspiring and empowering!

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      Monique Elise
      June 24, 2018 at 3:58 pm

      Thank you so much!

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    kumamonjeng
    June 24, 2018 at 1:31 pm

    This post is so encouraging, it helps me to stay focus and keep doing the thing I like and make everyday count. Congrats on yours achivement too!

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      Monique Elise
      June 24, 2018 at 3:58 pm

      Thank you!

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    Shay
    June 14, 2018 at 9:48 pm

    Congrats on making it through your first year. That’s a huge accomplishment!
    -Shay
    http://www.shayshaytries.com

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      Monique Elise
      June 15, 2018 at 4:24 pm

      Thank you so much!

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    Ashtyn
    June 14, 2018 at 3:03 pm

    Congratulations on your first year!!

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      Monique Elise
      June 15, 2018 at 4:25 pm

      Thank you love!

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    Laura
    June 14, 2018 at 1:22 pm

    Congrats on your first year! And even bigger congratulations on sorting through to figure out how to love your blog again. Your voice is unique, and life’s too short to do something you don’t love.

    🙂 Laura

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      Monique Elise
      June 15, 2018 at 4:25 pm

      Thank you so much Laura!! And I agree 100% <3

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    Dominique
    May 24, 2018 at 1:28 pm

    I am glad I missed this particular issue when I was dating! I tell my son "Don’t do it!" Even if you think you know your audience, hackers or other people on their phones can ruin that for you. Even if your married — if the relationship breaks up, your fun photos could be used against you in divorce proceedings!

    It is sad!

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    DreciaRenee
    May 24, 2018 at 1:22 pm

    Such a scary topic. It’s sad that a person you thought loved (or even liked) would do such a thing. Definitely have to take care of yourself. If you must send, I’ve always said Tip #1 is one of the smartest moves.

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    Jennifer
    May 23, 2018 at 5:36 pm

    Ug. It’s so sad to be able to trust someone and then have them betray that trust once the relationship is over. So sad! 🙁

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    Nailil
    May 23, 2018 at 2:55 pm

    Social Media is truly a gift and a curse. What I hate about it the most is that people make quick assumptions. My accounts for instance are a place of happiness and positivity. That’s not to say that all aspect of my life are perfect. Yet, some can be offended by this and see this as fake or unauthentic.

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    Msddah
    May 23, 2018 at 12:13 pm

    I saw a movie yesterday and a lady sent a nude photo to her boyfriend and it later ended up in front of a newspaper. I dont know why people do this. I dont think a man that loves a woman will ask her to send a nude photo!

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    Mika
    May 22, 2018 at 4:23 pm

    It’s so sad that something like this even exists. Yes, one should take all the measures they can to prevent themselves from getting into something like this. Absolutely agree with all your tips.

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    Adriana
    May 21, 2018 at 5:01 pm

    It is so sad that this is what our generation has come to these days.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:02 pm

      I agree!

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    Ivan Jose
    May 21, 2018 at 2:55 pm

    This is a subject that I never thought someone would tackle. I would never do that but for adventurous people, this is a good set of tips to keep in mind.

    Ivan
    https://www.ivankhristravels.com

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:02 pm

      It’s a very tough topic! Thanks Ivan !

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    Elizabeth O
    May 21, 2018 at 12:51 pm

    It is sad that people do this, I don’t know why we cannot all just move on from one another when a relationship falls a part. Great tips though on how to stay safe.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:03 pm

      It’s really sad and very scary! It just adds another element to dating and making sure to pick the right partner!

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    Corina
    May 21, 2018 at 12:17 pm

    I absolutely agree dear! I mean, I’d have to be very certain of a person to send them nude pics of myself, and unfortunately in this age being in a relationship with someone does not mean they’re decent…I’ve had moment when I really wanted to send my boyfriends some nude pics, but I’m glad I didn’t seeing as to how they acted when the relationship came to an end…

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:05 pm

      Glad you dodged that bullet! Thanks for stopping by xoxo

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    Elizabeth
    May 21, 2018 at 11:45 am

    I can confess I’ve never sent a nude, and nor do I ever intend to! Fingers crossed my kid never do either.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:05 pm

      Fingers crossed!

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    CJ
    May 21, 2018 at 10:47 am

    I’ve never sent a nude, and never plan to. This just cements why I shouldn’t. Thank you.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:05 pm

      No problem!

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    Jo
    May 21, 2018 at 9:05 am

    Never knew about these laws in place but I’m glad to hear it. You never know when someone might turn on you, so it’s best to not send these things at all!

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:05 pm

      I agree!

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    Luci
    May 21, 2018 at 7:36 am

    I think you shouldn’t send any nude pictures at all because of all the hackers that could get into you iCloud account like a lot of celebrities.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:06 pm

      Yes people have to be very careful!

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    Julie Plagens
    May 20, 2018 at 9:10 pm

    These are good suggestions. I would add that waiting until marriage to have sex cures most of this problem. And not videoing or taking pictures like this period. Unfortunately, we live an a society that is not willing to delay gratification. It’s worth reevaluating your morals and values and looking for the most protection possible so that we as women retain the most control over our bodies and our reputation.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:07 pm

      Interesting point. I think that different things work for different couples, but that’s not to say you should be completely naive! Set boundaries.

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    Justin
    May 20, 2018 at 4:28 pm

    This is crazy! I did not know about the 38 states having revenge porn laws. No face no trace!

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:07 pm

      No face no trace! That’s my motto – if you must

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    Annie
    May 20, 2018 at 3:35 pm

    This terrifies me! There are even apps you can use to take screenshots of snapchats without it notifying the other person. Nothing is safe.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:07 pm

      Wow I didn’t know that!

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    Nailil
    May 20, 2018 at 2:43 pm

    This is such a delicate topic. The best policy is probably to stay away from taking these types of photos/videos all together.

    Nailil,
    http://thirtyminusone.com/

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:08 pm

      Super delicate! And I agree xoxo

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    Lyosha
    May 20, 2018 at 1:06 pm

    No face not trace is great! But I actually don’t see anything wrong in nude photos. It’s just a body, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:08 pm

      I love your confidence! It’s def easier to feel that way when your face isn’t in the pic!

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    Courtney
    May 18, 2018 at 2:09 pm

    Great post and right on time!! Very important to know your audience and have a very good foundation and understanding in place before you go there with a person. No face no trace is a good rule of thumb when casually dating and just starting to feel someone. But that gets a little tricky when you’re actually in a relationship and that person is your partner. You’d think you could trust them enough to not have to hide yourself. Sadly, ppl can’t be trusted. We gotta be more careful. Sn: can you believe T Mari’s alleged “boyfriend” (or ex now) is actually a married man?! Ppl have some nerve! Lol

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:09 pm

      That’s a great point! We just have to be more careful all around.

      And girl no! The whole story is a nightmare!

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    Tina
    May 18, 2018 at 1:32 pm

    This was a great read. No face no trace. That’s a word!! 🙌🏾

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:09 pm

      Thanks Tina!

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    Toni
    May 18, 2018 at 11:28 am

    Mannnn…this definitely doesn’t come as a surprise. When it doubt, go to God! Lol. Technology is not our friend sometimes.

    This was a great post. One MANY women can live by!

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:10 pm

      Technology IS NOT! I agree. Thanks girl!

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    Phea
    May 14, 2018 at 3:32 am

    I agree sometimes we woman, need a different flavour

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:10 pm

      Yes – keep things spicy!

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    Jagriti Roy
    May 11, 2018 at 3:02 pm

    It always surprise me whenever people starts to discriminate people depending on their body colour. It is so ruthless and annoying sometimes too. I think in every sect of life each people should get equal opportunity irrespective of their skin colour. We Asian people often get bullied sometimes badly just for such kind of racist thought of few white people.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:11 pm

      Racism is never ok! That’s why I think it’s good for us to start to step out of our comfort zone and interact/date different people!

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    Tee Forever
    May 9, 2018 at 12:07 am

    I 100% agree. Love is love and it comes in all shades and sizes. Black men are amazing. I think in every culture there are different types of people so, it’s like the old saying, if we keep hooking up with the same type of dudes, we’ll continue to get the same results regardless of their culture or background. Cool post!

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:11 pm

      Thank you for stopping by! Glad you enjoyed it!

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    Rachel
    May 8, 2018 at 1:51 pm

    An advocate of love – Iove the idea of this! An interesting read indeed! People should be able to date who they like as long as it makes them happy (and they are both single!!)

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:11 pm

      Amen to that!

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    Corina
    May 8, 2018 at 12:47 pm

    Well that’s exactly what I’m about to do after yet another recently failed relationship 🙂 put myself out there and try something absolutely different from my usual pattern because obviously that’s not been working for me greatly so far 🙂

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:12 pm

      Sorry to hear about your relationship!! But nothing wrong with bouncing back!! Have fun xoxo

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    wiola
    May 8, 2018 at 12:43 pm

    Oh I love this part: I want to just say that I’m an advocate for LOVE! I agree… double standard shouldn’t even exist! Let’s date whoever we feel comfortable dating and that is what really matters!

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    Nati
    May 8, 2018 at 9:03 am

    Reading your article triggered my thoughts in so many directions in one second! You really made me reflect!
    Firstly I must say, I come from a country where black race is almost non-existent. Our race differences are between caucasian and aboriginals, mostly (this is Argentina, different from Brazil where there are more races). So what I will say maybe does not apply to african-american (?). I think for most people there is this idea that because we belong to the same race/country/political ideology/religion, etc. we have more in common with someone. That could be generally true, let’s admit it. So I think for this social belief we seek people that are SIMILAR to us. But as you say, it all depends on what are you ready to give up on when you start exploring out of these circles of SIMILARITIES. (I hope I’m being clear). Probably you have much more similarities with an Asian man who grew up in your neighbourhood that with another black man who was raised in Ethiopia… right? I think dating men from other races is not as much of a problem because of the colour of the skin but because of the cultural background of the person! Intercultural couples are a tough thing, but not impossible.
    I married 15 years ago a man. I didn’t speak his mother tongue. He didn’t speak mine either. We both spoke English as a "neutral tongue". We were raised in different continents, me in Southamerica, he in Europe. Still, we have a lot in common!

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:14 pm

      Hi Nati! Thank you so much for your insight and I def understand what you’re saying. I truly believe we can make anything work if we are really committed to doing so!

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    Terri Beavers
    May 8, 2018 at 4:44 am

    love is blind, you cant make yourself love someone because of their color.

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    britney
    May 8, 2018 at 3:29 am

    I love your point of view on this! Such a powerful idea but you made some great points.

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      Monique Elise
      May 22, 2018 at 2:14 pm

      Thanks love !

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    Holly
    May 8, 2018 at 12:22 am

    You have such a great perspective. Love this. Thank you for the encouraging words….it really made me think.

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    Cia Black
    May 7, 2018 at 11:32 pm

    This is a very powerful post. Very real and very open about it. I agree with post so much. Race should not matter.

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    Daisy
    May 7, 2018 at 8:53 pm

    I think character is the most important thing to consider when considering dating anyone… race does not matter to me just that I will be treated with respect…

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    Elizabeth O
    May 7, 2018 at 6:56 pm

    You hit the nail on the head when you said we are all deserving of true love. I agree with this, for me love is love and it matter not about race, religion or nationality.

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    Khushboo
    May 7, 2018 at 5:04 pm

    That is an interesting perspective. I suppose if you like a person, you should date them irrespective of race, nationality or religion 🙂

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    kumamonjeng
    May 7, 2018 at 6:41 am

    I think these are such a good advise for dating, have an open mind and less judgment for the first date. We really need some times to get to know the person true self.

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    Julie
    May 7, 2018 at 3:49 am

    Great article! I love black men, but I believe BW should date and love on who loves and appreciates them. in short, love should be reciprocal.

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    Czjai
    May 7, 2018 at 3:24 am

    From what I’ve heard (read), she said that black women should date Asians except Filipinos. She even said that Filipinos are the blacks of Asia, and that we’re not intelligent like the Chinese and Japanese? What’s her beef with Filipinos?

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    kumamonjeng
    May 7, 2018 at 12:12 am

    I can’t agree more with this article. It doesn’t matter what your color of your skin tone, date whoever deserve us! At the end of the day, it is the personality of the person count, not the skin color.

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    Explorethe6
    May 6, 2018 at 11:49 pm

    Totally understand Issa’s viewpoint here. It’s sad that in 2018 this is still even a topic of discussion! I say, people should really focus on finding someone who they can be themselves with. That’s what matters most end of the day.

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    Hannah
    May 6, 2018 at 8:55 pm

    I like that you’re talking about love and it really is the most important thing here to state. The race is not important and people should not stray from other people because they are not the same color as they are. All it matters is that the person you’re dating is the right choice for you mentally. Everything else is just too shallow.

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    Pat
    May 6, 2018 at 6:59 pm

    In my opinion, people should consider someone’s character as the most important issue. Thanks for sharing this post.

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    Clarice / Camping for Women
    May 6, 2018 at 6:18 pm

    I would have to agree that yes, everyone should have equal opportunities. After all, all is fair in love and war. That encompasses all races, color and social standing.

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    Gladys Parker
    May 6, 2018 at 5:24 pm

    My daughter in law is black and white. My son is white and my grandson is a boy. A cute lovable little boy just like his mother and father! They both are loving spouses, they both are great parents and they both have degrees and bring home that money. I couldn’t be prouder. I do not understand why in our town alone why it is so common to see a black man with a white woman yet so uncommon to see a white man with a black man. I have a great friend whom is a widow. She is beautiful, she takes care of herself and her mom, has a great job and remains desperately single because she will only date black men and they are all dating every race. I hope I did not say anything offensive sometimes I just don’t know.

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    Simone
    May 5, 2018 at 2:58 am

    Couldn’t agree more! Interracial dating does come with its own special set of challenges, but the most important thing in any relationship is being loved and respected no matter what race they are.

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    Telia
    May 4, 2018 at 10:19 pm

    Being a person in an interracial relationship, my fiance is white and I am black, and have dated a few different races (White, Black, Asian, and Mexican), i think it’s one of those things that comes down to how people are raised and how they see their mothers, aunts, and sisters being treated and how they act. I can say for one thing that the only person that I had dated and had a bad break up with was the black man. And the reason that didn’t work out was because he treated me as if I was unintelligent and was just some typical girl from the hood because that was what he was used to seeing from a black women and he didn’t like the fact that I had an extensive vocabulary (He would constantly ask me why I talked so proper and used so many big words and then would proceed to tell me that I annoyed him when I did that). But my point is I think that people need to stop making race a huge factor in who they date. The important thing is that you are loved, treated well, and the relationship is a healthy one.

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    John
    May 3, 2018 at 10:37 pm

    Black women have always outnumbered Black men. That’s not reason to bedwench or encourage interracial. Asian men consider Black women the least desirable of all women according to OKCupid. Asian men contribute to the environment that Black women are unwanted and undesirable, so why is Issa Rae encouraging Black women to chase racialists?

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    John
    May 3, 2018 at 10:35 pm

    First, Issa Rae insinuated Black men were stupid when she emphasized Asian men’s intelligence by comparison. That’s antiblack and self hating. Secoond, only loser, uneducated and virgin Asian men even bother with Black women. Educated Asian men don’t date Black women, and will never date Black women. Third, Educated Asian men don’t want educated Black women. Issa Rae begging Asian men only shows that she’s desperate for an anti-black group, Asian men, that don’t want her.

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    Kate
    May 3, 2018 at 6:35 pm

    I was just speaking on this topic earlier with a friend, I couldn’t agree more! Great read!

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    Wytrina
    May 3, 2018 at 6:11 pm

    Great post! I’ve dated outside my race but always find myself back with the BM 😍 lol but I totally agree!!!! Love is not based on skin color but I will say there will be much to learn and teach. It’s actually fun and intriguing to date outside your race.

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    Courtney
    May 3, 2018 at 3:13 pm

    I tend to keep my thoughts to myself on this topic, so as to not say anything offesnive to anyone. So in short, I’ll just say this… "love is blind, despite the world’s attempt to give it eyes."

    Courtney

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    Lenka Dvorakova
    March 28, 2018 at 2:18 pm

    This are some great tips. I am very happy to found my men. I know bad dates can be very frustrating.

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    Nati
    March 27, 2018 at 8:14 am

    Great tips! I have never dated someone as a grownup, so I wouldn’t know… I met my husband when I was 17, lol But That tip sending your location to a friend is great, the world has become a dangerous place and you never know who the person next to you really is! Safety first!!

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    Lyosha
    March 26, 2018 at 6:13 pm

    Nice tips! Backup plan is always a great idea!

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    Nailil
    March 26, 2018 at 4:49 pm

    These are great tips, because a bad date can happen to anyone, it is good to know how to act.
    Nailil
    http://www.thirtyminusone.com

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    Elizabeth O
    March 26, 2018 at 12:06 pm

    These are great tips. I particularly like the idea of having an escape plan, texting someone your location is a really good idea to keep safe but also if you need someone to bail you out.

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    Journa Ramirez
    March 26, 2018 at 10:45 am

    These tips are very helpful. I should share this with someone who’s still on the process of dating!

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    Jeff Helms
    March 24, 2018 at 5:42 pm

    Very smart tips. Dating isn’t like it used to be, this will help get us back there. Be positive and hopefully until the end of the date.

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    Courtney
    March 23, 2018 at 4:48 pm

    Let me just tell you, I’m in a committed relationship and I love my man… but dating was fun! Lol. While I encountered a few bad dates, I had a lot of good ones for the most part. I think it’s definitely important to keep an open mind.. and another one of my favorite tips is “no expectations, no disappointments”. That got me through a lot. Anyway, great read, per usual.

    Courtney

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    Toni
    March 23, 2018 at 2:50 pm

    Lol. I’m all for this! You HAVE to keep it positive until it’s time to leave. Unless it’s a REALLY bad experience, then I’m all about positivity and taking a sucky date with stride.

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    Tina
    March 23, 2018 at 12:43 pm

    These are great tips. I think everyone is a serial killer so i definitely used to let at least three friends know where i was going. I would sneak a picture of his license plate if he was driving too! 🤣

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    Acupofassamtea
    March 21, 2018 at 1:11 pm

    What an interesting read. And it makes me smile too. I am inclined towards promise.

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    Jen
    March 21, 2018 at 2:52 am

    I’m definitely a promise person at first and then I do the person thing. This is a great way of looking at it. Somehow I managed to get my shit together and have a really successful relationship. We heat a rough patch at our 1.5 year mark and made a complete 180 with individual and couple’s therapy. I couldn’t be happier. After multiple long-term relationships I know the difference between someone for now and someone for long ass time.

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    Ching
    March 21, 2018 at 2:50 am

    I love her! I love how she’s so in your face trekking you how it is! I love your style of writing. Straight to the point but you make very good points as well!

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    jo
    March 21, 2018 at 2:06 am

    This post kind of speaks to me and makes me question which of them i have chosen and even though the answer is obvious to me i guess i have to rethink my decision and get a reality check. thanks for sharing this.

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    Becca Talbot
    March 20, 2018 at 7:14 pm

    I have never heard of this show before, but I love this article!! I have a friend who has fallen very much for the Penis, and now she’s wondering why he doesn’t want a relationship blah blah…! I will forward this over to her, she has to have a read! x

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    Jenny
    March 20, 2018 at 5:25 pm

    I think I definitely chose the right one. I had to get through a few bad apples to get to him though, and it was all worth it. There are definitely hard times where I want to smack him around a little (never do LOL) but I wouldn’t change who I am with. And no, I wasn’t dickmatized. LOL I waited a year before I even said I love you to him, and 6 months before we did the deed.

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    Calleigh K
    March 20, 2018 at 12:21 pm

    Since childhood, I was taught this kind of mantra, "you get what you put into something," and I live by this mantra until this day. I try to give the things that I want instead of incessantly looking for others to give it to me. Same way as you invest stuff like time, loyalty, emotion and trust into a relationship because that’s what you ultimately want back.

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    NAti
    March 20, 2018 at 9:00 am

    I admit I LOL when reading your title! I have no idea of this tv show, but I think the question is really appropriate to make you think. I only dated TWO people in my life. The first was a good person, but the other two P weren’t there, if you know what I mean. I was very young, I had all my life ahead. When I was 18 I found the man with all three P’s… he was 24, and we lived in different CONTINENTS. Everyone thought I was crazy to think at age 18 this was the man of my life. But gal, take my advice, if you find the 3 P, you DON’T let go… So that’s how we’ve been together for 20 years and have two beautiful children.

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    Nicole Vick
    March 20, 2018 at 4:51 am

    GIRL!!! I cackled so loud this post! It’s so true! I went through my own drama not too long ago and had to blog about it. I think I was dating a promise with a little bit of penis sprinkled in. Found out he was seeing someone else the entire time we were together. And entire = almost 3 years. Hot mess. Anywho, great post!

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    Rachel
    March 19, 2018 at 7:12 pm

    This post made me laugh but got me thinking too! I’d like to think a combo of them all!

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    Evelyn Foreman
    March 19, 2018 at 4:28 pm

    Great points of awareness. When we know what we are "going for" it makes all the difference in the world of expectations and what we want out of a relationship. In this way, we set ourselves up for clarity and happiness. =) Thanks for raising awareness! xo Evelyn, PathofPresence.com

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    Daisy
    March 19, 2018 at 3:08 pm

    I absolutely loved reading this post! I always look forward to your new articles and reading what yiu have to say 🙂 I have made the choice 3 years ago not to date anymore…like ever LOl but I truly am the happiest and most relaxed I have ever been in my life 🙂

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    Emily Leary
    March 19, 2018 at 1:49 pm

    This was an interesting read. We all make mistakes along the way and learn from them (hopefully)!

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    Jen ~ The Tipsy Mama
    March 19, 2018 at 1:31 pm

    Such a good question that I don’t think a lot of women think about in an honest way until it is put to them in this way! I think alot of us think it is always our heart leading the way, so it must be forever love…when in actuality it is more lust or good sex!

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    Lyosha
    March 19, 2018 at 12:36 pm

    This post is soo good! I wish I read it like 10 years ago when I stated daing. I dated penises, promises and only once a person. This person is my husband now

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    Alina
    March 19, 2018 at 10:34 am

    It’s a good exercise to pause and think why are we actually with a person, what is the real reason? There are so many ways we can answer this question, and at times it is very difficult to be honest with ourselves … you put together some of the main reasons and questions to ask very nicely though, thank you!

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    Helen
    March 19, 2018 at 5:58 am

    I love this. I really enjoyed reading your blog! I laugh so hard. Nice job. Will definitely be sharing this.

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    kumamonjeng
    March 19, 2018 at 3:17 am

    This article has alert all the women out there to aware of the facts and make us realized what really we needed from a man. You have illustrated the list well and thorough! It was fun reading it !

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    Dia Darling
    March 17, 2018 at 8:15 pm

    Haha I love this! I have seen many people stick with a man because of sex. I’m personally guilty of dating guys who "have potential" but aren’t living up to it. Finally kicked that habit and that man.

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    Esme Sy
    March 16, 2018 at 9:41 pm

    Reality check indeed. I’m fortunate enough with my life but I can’t say that I didn’t have take some blind corners. These 3 things can exist in someway, I think we just need to be careful with how it progresses in order.

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    Tara Fuller
    March 16, 2018 at 7:49 pm

    omg I laughed so hard. my trainer and I talk about women who are dickmatized- it’s totally a thing! This was awesome girl!

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    Brittany
    March 16, 2018 at 7:21 pm

    Interesting way to put it and so true! Luckily I am happily married and no longer have to figure these things out 😉

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    Elizabeth O
    March 16, 2018 at 5:05 pm

    This was interesting to read. I enjoyed reading about the 3 Ps and your thoughts on them.

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    Czjai
    March 16, 2018 at 1:19 pm

    I had no idea that this is what the three P’s meant, lol. I fell in love and married my husband for the person that he is, and I guess the other two P’s just came with the entire package, haha!

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    Preet
    March 16, 2018 at 4:19 am

    What an interesting read. I like the way you put your point and explain it, so clear and loud. It is so important to know the 3 P’s and see what is the driving force in a relationship and if it is worth it.

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    Josie
    March 16, 2018 at 3:47 am

    I’ve definitely fallen in love for all three reasons! Luckily, I married the "person", and will happily be spending the rest of my life building a future with him 🙂

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    Patricia
    March 15, 2018 at 11:26 pm

    Very interesting read! I am happily married now, however I did take a moment to look back through my failed relationships and I think I have used each "P"!

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    Nicole
    March 15, 2018 at 7:52 pm

    I’m so glad I read this, very insightful. I had never heard anyone refer to the 3 p’s before, but it makes total sense. I can relate, I fell victim to many a bad relationship in the past and kept blinders on in hopes that it would turn into the relationship that I wanted.

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    Courtney
    March 15, 2018 at 7:15 pm

    This was prob one of my favorite posts of yours! I think we’ve all been in love with the penis a time or two lol. Seriously though, it’s very important to identify which of the three Ps is a driving force in the relationship. I think all women should read this. Great post, boo!

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    gigi eats
    March 15, 2018 at 6:04 pm

    Bah ha ha ha ha! That’s a great way of putting it! I am married, and I know I married THE MAN and all that comes with him. 🙂 And when we were "dating"… We were in it for each other! We talk about it/communicate this ALL the time to one another!

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    Tiffany Peral
    March 15, 2018 at 3:48 pm

    Good read, very insightful post. Nowadays, it’s so hard to build a worthy relationship, the one that doesn’t waste your time and effort, the one that’s worth it. Thanks for sharing ♥️ ♥️ By any chance you are interested on doing collaborations, you can check out the collaborations portal of Phlanx.com and connect with amazing brands!

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    Tiffany Yong
    February 10, 2018 at 3:16 pm

    Invest in myself is something I live by too! Being bombarded by living standards on social media got me really depressed and this made me grumpy and unhappy with my life. I start trying to be who I am not, and it becomes a vicious cycle,

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    Sophie
    February 8, 2018 at 1:10 pm

    I never even thought to take advantage of that last idea. Genius! Going to give it a think this afternoon and see what I can come up with.

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    Joanna
    February 8, 2018 at 7:37 am

    Valentine’s Day is just another commercial day to make money for businesses. It shouldn’t interfere with how single people feel. Couples know that love is celebrated every day, not only on the 14th of February.

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    Joss R
    February 7, 2018 at 8:11 pm

    I always take time to spend it with the ones I love not just with my bf. So i take my mom to the movies, eat have lunch with my friend and we chiil out with Netflix with my bf

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    Evelyn Foreman
    February 7, 2018 at 8:02 pm

    My favorite is number three Netflix and chill out. There’s nothing like spending quality time alone to rekindle the love that is within 💗

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    Esmy Sy
    February 7, 2018 at 5:49 pm

    I used to do number 4 back then. To me, Valentine’s Day is a special day I always celebrating every day! So the day itself is just another blogging opportunity for me.

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    Sue-Tanya
    February 7, 2018 at 4:02 pm

    Oh child! How perfect is this. Right in time before all the valentines day madness starts 🙂 Thanks for doing this post repping for the singles out there

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    Noelle Lynne
    February 7, 2018 at 8:38 am

    Nothing like a much needed Netflix and Chill by yourself 🙂 I am really looking forward to just treating myself this Valentines day!

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    Anshul Gupta
    February 7, 2018 at 8:15 am

    Number 4 is good!!. And treat yourself with all the money earned.

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    Diana
    February 6, 2018 at 9:47 pm

    Netflix and chill sounds so good! But capitalize on the holiday made me laugh, haha, that’s the right attitude haha

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    Cleo
    February 6, 2018 at 8:45 pm

    Love the treat yourself! I fully agree! Defo getting a new pair of shoes

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    Fabiola
    February 6, 2018 at 5:50 pm

    Such an overrated holiday. My other half and I celebrate V Day on a random day, like, we are going to the Rome and Juliet ballet on the 22nd of February.

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    Ana Ojha
    February 5, 2018 at 9:07 pm

    This year Valentine’s day is on Wednesday, therefore I’ll be working through the day and maybe. in the evening I’ll go out for dinner. I liked your survival guide especially hanging out with other single friends!

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    Wytrina Wright
    February 5, 2018 at 6:13 pm

    This is definitely a way to thrive and not just survive as a single on Valentine’s Day!!!! Great suggestions

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    Lebogang Xolo
    February 5, 2018 at 1:23 pm

    There’s absolutely something beautiful about self love. Just taking time to yourself and enjoying your own company. I love this post.

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    Shubhada Bhide
    February 5, 2018 at 5:40 am

    These are some awesome tips. Valentine’s Day not just for the couples, even singles can still celebrate Valentine’s Day.

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    Nadia
    February 5, 2018 at 2:53 am

    Love your tips. Who says Valentine’s Day is just for couples. To me its another day, another day I get to treat myself.

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    Preet
    February 4, 2018 at 6:00 pm

    Some amazing tips here.Capitalizing on the day is a great idea. I like the treat yourself point too

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    Elizabeth O
    February 4, 2018 at 3:13 pm

    Valentine’s Day is often so frowned upon by singletons, so well done you for showing ways in which everyone can make it a good day. Meeting and having fun with your other single friends is a great idea. It sure doesn’t need to be a ‘lonely’ day!

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    Liz T
    February 4, 2018 at 3:09 pm

    Despite being in a long term relationship, I’ve never been a fan of Valentine’s Day. So I love the idea of capitalizing on the day! Brilliant! Everything is so commercial these days, why let the card and gift companies gain all the benefit?!

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    Lyosha
    February 4, 2018 at 8:55 am

    Sounds like a good idea if you spend it alone. I kinda don’t remember me being sinle that day really but your tips are sure useful!

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    Courtney
    February 3, 2018 at 4:56 pm

    Funny, I can’t remember the last Valentine’s Day I spent alone, lol. But these are all things I would do. Especially splurge on something nice and go out with other singles! Great post boo.

    Consuella

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    Melanie
    February 3, 2018 at 1:27 pm

    Some great tips here. Netwroking with other singles is a super idea. I totally agree with the treat yourself point 🙂 x

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    Ithfifi
    February 3, 2018 at 12:49 pm

    I’m single for this Valentines day and I am happy to see a post focusig on us singles, its a nice change. I think I’ll be doing a whole bunch of 2 and 3, Self pampering session with netflix!

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    Cindy
    February 2, 2018 at 3:00 pm

    I love your idea of capitalizing on the holiday! Might as well make some cash and buy yourself something sweet!

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    kumamonjeng
    February 2, 2018 at 1:24 pm

    Can’t agree more of your point but I love the feature picture the best and the latex skirt 🙂

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    Tina
    February 1, 2018 at 4:09 pm

    Yes for treating your self! I love a good reason for some extra self care!!

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    Ashley
    January 31, 2018 at 2:28 pm

    With many Black Women being heads of households (financially) it only makes sense that we would see a shift in this change as well. Women are gaining their power and now we have options to chose who we want, not so much the other way around. It sounds so different because we aren’t used to it (yet).

    SN: I’m a little traditional so I prob would not propose. However, I can see why one would.

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    Ari
    January 30, 2018 at 3:49 am

    I’m not sure I think it matters who does the proposal. I think the most important thing is being on the same page as your partner. It shouldn’t be emasculating.

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    vasundhra
    January 28, 2018 at 2:01 am

    I think that it is important to express your feelings in love and it doesn’t matter if a female or a male proposes. Love is love!

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    Pooja k
    January 27, 2018 at 11:56 pm

    Well, love is love whosoever will do doesnt matter as it is the beginning of that beautiful long journey where both are ewually sharing the love.

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    Karolina
    January 27, 2018 at 11:30 pm

    I think people should do what they feel is right for them. I’m not sure I’d propose, but then again -when the time comes people just know what the want:)

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    Luci
    January 27, 2018 at 7:24 pm

    I think that female proposals is a okay. If you are in a relationship with someone I don’t think it should matter who proposes. If you love someone if shouldn’t matter.

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    Taslyn
    January 27, 2018 at 3:46 pm

    I think wrong is wrong despite your man or woman the standards should be the same.

    <a href="http://www.taslynmatina.co.uk/">TaslynMatina</a&gt;

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    mily jain
    January 27, 2018 at 10:34 am

    Yes ofcourse why should there be any difference..In this age all that matters is true love and not who proposes to whom..

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    Evelyn Foreman
    January 27, 2018 at 10:22 am

    Great points! I don’t think relationships are a one size fits all. This question (for me) depends on the couple & their dynamic. Marriage after all, is a long haul and an inter-relationship that has a delicate balance and flow.

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    Emily Leary
    January 27, 2018 at 4:41 am

    I think they’re a great idea, why not go for what you want? 🙂

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    Apolline Adiju
    January 26, 2018 at 9:07 pm

    To me love is love and I don’t find any problems with a lady proposing to her man. What matters is if the love is there and you guys are happy together.

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    Elizabeth O
    January 26, 2018 at 6:22 pm

    Personally I think love is love, and for me it wouldn’t matter if I proposed or my partner. If we wanted to be together then it really wouldn’t matter 🙂

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    empowerandhelp
    January 26, 2018 at 4:26 pm

    Not sure why this is even a question in this century ? Proposal is a symbol you are ready or you both are ready 🙂

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    Luci
    January 26, 2018 at 2:02 am

    I think there is a double standard for men cheating and women cheating, it seems men are more likely to be ‘forgiven’ if they cheat on their significant other. Women are basically marked for life. But what I believe is a major double standard is when celebrity men cheat people treat it like it didn’t happen at all, if they say sorry its okay.

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    Ciara kate
    January 25, 2018 at 3:43 pm

    My thoughts on this are super biased. Like you said, for me it’s a symbol that a man is ready to spend his life with you and there’s something very masculine and strong about a man getting on his knee to propose so to see a woman doing it, im so against it

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    Ra'Nesha
    January 24, 2018 at 3:53 am

    Interesting post I can’t say I agree or disagree you got a lot strong points we can talk about for days to come.

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    Courtney
    January 23, 2018 at 7:40 pm

    The double standard is real, and it sucks. But I agree with your stance. If women stopped accepting it time after time, the narrative would change. I do believe like you said there are so many factors in why one stays so I’m not saying you should drop everything and run the instance that it happens. But I do think we need to move towards eliminating the double standard and advocating that cheating is wrong. Period. It’s not gender specific.

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    acupofassamtea
    January 23, 2018 at 1:37 pm

    This is such a sensitive topic. One know how does it feel going through it. Love the way you addressed it. Personally, I believe if something is not going right one should make it clear then cheating.

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    mily jain
    January 23, 2018 at 1:37 pm

    I definitely do not believe that one gender should be given any advantage over the other when it comes to infidelity…it is terrible and everyone should be held accountable equally..

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    Shubhada Bhide
    January 23, 2018 at 1:07 pm

    This is such an interesting post to read. Cheating in a relationship is the most disgusting, hurtful and disrespectful thing that we could do to someone that we really love.

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    Erica Ardali
    January 22, 2018 at 10:06 pm

    I think that we don’t talk about women who cheat often enough… however in this era of Love & Hip Hop it is just too widely acceptable for men to cheat on women and women to just run after him, fighting the other woman in the streets and other tomfoolery.

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    Preet
    January 22, 2018 at 7:07 pm

    This is so inspiring post, you have touched this sensitive topic in such nice and thought-provoking manner. Cheating should not be accepted as it just violates the foundation of a relationship.

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    indu
    January 22, 2018 at 4:28 pm

    You have elaborated on this subject from all perspectives. Many times cheating happens unnoticed.
    But when confronted, there are many factors that go in a decision of staying or not staying.

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    Stephanie Jeannot
    January 22, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    I liked that you took an opinion poll about this. This is a good way to view how people feel about this really, not too nice, topic. Cheating is such an ugly thing.

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    Emily Leary
    January 22, 2018 at 3:54 pm

    Cheating in relationships is such an emotional topic but I personally don’t think infidelity can ever be excused whether its a male or a female doing it!

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    Cindy
    January 22, 2018 at 3:44 pm

    I believe you teach someone how to treat you, so trust and expectations are set at the beginning of a relationship. Every couple has to decide if the rift can be repaired and trust can be rebuilt.

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    Lisa Rios
    January 22, 2018 at 2:50 pm

    I totally think there is a double standard on many things with men and women. Cheating is so difficult to deal with, and it’s different for everyone/

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    Lyosha
    January 22, 2018 at 11:42 am

    I don’t think cheating acceptable if it was wasn’t a rule of the relationship. I hardly can imagine myself being cheated by husband and I really don’t want even try to step into those shoes in my head.

    Lyosha
    http://lyoshathegirl.com

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    ms.p
    January 22, 2018 at 9:20 am

    Thought provoking indeed!
    I guess we need to not look at just the black and white and make some room for the grey!

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    Hunter
    January 21, 2018 at 10:23 pm

    Intriguing post. There are lots of societal and cultural complexities behind our standards of marriage. Like you, I’m glad to see couples work things out instead of leaving a partnership. Thanks for making us think.

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    Liz Tumbridge
    January 21, 2018 at 9:57 pm

    I went for many years allowing myself to be cheated on by the same man, because I let myself believe that he wouldn’t do it again … over and over again. I had little to no self respect and absolutely no self worth. Things are different now though, and I’d never allow it to happen again. Thank you for this inspiring post. Your words are motivating and touching!

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    Calleigh
    January 21, 2018 at 9:39 pm

    The double standard of cheating always amazes me wherein the real issue with our society lies on how it looked upon differently between 2 sexes. Men are treated lightly when they cheat while two-timing women are more unforgivable, why treating separately for each sex? You can’t just blame one person as it takes two to tango. Oh well, I know nothing about you, but in this world loyalty is everything.
    From: <a href="https://www.theforkbite.com/thai-beef-salad/">Calleigh</a&gt;

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    Ramona Spires
    January 21, 2018 at 9:05 pm

    I totally agree focus, invest, and be true to yourself. When you just focus on yourself and your own journey you will be better for it.

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    Shell
    January 21, 2018 at 8:07 pm

    I feel that male or female … once a cheater… always a cheater. There would be no working it out with me…. if my significant other cheated once that’s one time too many and they’d be gone.

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    Rachel Evans
    January 21, 2018 at 3:46 pm

    I couldn’t agree more! I think talking about the situation as a couple and seeing how you can move forward is one thing, but I have so many friends who’s boyfriend has cheated on them and they have just overlooked it – it’s really hard to talk to my friends about it thought because they’d rather just pretend it didn’t happen.

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    Chelsea Elizabeth
    January 21, 2018 at 10:56 am

    I must admit, I’ve never really thought about it or considered it but after reading your points, I totally agree! You definitely have to love yourself first

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    Shawn Alexus
    January 21, 2018 at 4:22 am

    Love it. If more women wouldn’t allow cheating, many men wouldn’t be so arrogant about it. They KNOW a woman has a forgiving heart and endless chances. I agree never fear being alone.

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    shadlyn
    January 20, 2018 at 9:28 pm

    Your article really had me thinking for awhile. You made a really good point! I am glad you end it by basically saying "You have to love yourself before you can love someone else." I have always been told by my parents and even myself.

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    Nicole Shillings
    January 20, 2018 at 7:53 pm

    I’m not sure what I think about the cheating double standard. I feel like the few cheaters I’ve knows (both men and women) had very similar experiences with the aftermath. Actually, now that I think about it, all the men I know who have been cheated on took their partners back.

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    Elizabeth O
    January 20, 2018 at 12:45 pm

    I had never thought of cheating as a double standard but everything you said made complete sense. I agree it exists!

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    Cheryl
    January 19, 2018 at 9:23 pm

    Really interesting post – really made me think about a lot of things. I’ve never really though about there being a double standard – but I agree it 100% exists.

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    Emily Fata, www.emulatingemily.com
    January 19, 2018 at 2:28 pm

    This was a really interesting read; I also believe that there’s a double standard in cheating, and it’s unfair. I think that society helps in moulding women to view relationships in a certain way, making them reluctant to leave .

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    Melinda Gale
    January 18, 2018 at 2:10 pm

    Girl! You are speaking my language. I had a basic breakdown at the end of December because I was comparing my life/holiday to everyone elses. I gave up Instagram for the month of January and it was the best decision I could have made. I have been able to focus on myself, not worry about "likes", not worry about what everyone else is doing — staying in my lane!

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    Luci
    January 14, 2018 at 6:31 pm

    I totally agree with you. I grew up with the mantra, make your own path. Don’t follow the crowds because you might not know where they are going. Its okay not to fit in.

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      Monique Elise
      January 15, 2018 at 8:49 pm

      So glad you agree! Thanks for reading xoxo

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    Elizabeth O
    January 13, 2018 at 12:17 pm

    What a great post. Staying in your life is such an important things to do. We need to stay focused, go after dreams and keep moving towards your goals. and live life to the fullest because it only happens once.

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      Monique Elise
      January 15, 2018 at 8:49 pm

      AMEN to that!

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    Shubhada Bhide
    January 13, 2018 at 9:37 am

    This is such a great post to read. Staying in your life is so important. Stop getting distracted by things that have nothing to do with our goals. Live life to the fullest!!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 15, 2018 at 8:50 pm

      Yasssss girl! Thank you for stopping by!

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    Beola Lawal
    January 13, 2018 at 4:57 am

    Awesome post, I agree 100%. Stay in your lane, live your life and always be yourself.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 15, 2018 at 8:50 pm

      In that order! Thanks love!

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    Tanvi Rastogi
    January 12, 2018 at 2:32 pm

    I relate to your post so much as that’s exactly how I think and feel too … people need to focus on their own growth and improvements and not compare or compete with others.

    Social Media is definitely a gift and a curse at the same time.

    http://www.tanvii.com

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      Monique Elise
      January 15, 2018 at 8:51 pm

      100% agree! Glad you could relate!

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    Mercy
    January 12, 2018 at 9:11 am

    have always thought I was alone, on bad days scrolling through social media is one of the worst things you can do, you can feel like you are a failure comparing yourself to others, I guess we need to constantly remind ourselves that we are unique

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      Monique Elise
      January 15, 2018 at 8:52 pm

      Mercy trust me – you’re not!! Best you can do is stay true to yourself! That will never go out of style!

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    Takeara
    January 11, 2018 at 5:35 pm

    This is really great. I feel like social media has definitely contributed to people comparing themselves. My mom always said that we don’t know about people’s real life from a picture and that’s so true. We don’t know what people had to go through to get what they have. Like you said, my journey is my own! Great post!

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      Monique Elise
      January 15, 2018 at 8:52 pm

      Your mom is so right! Glad you liked it!

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    Courtney
    January 11, 2018 at 3:58 pm

    Girl you have NO idea how on time this is! I am literally in the works of creating a blog post similar to this! I just texted my best friend 5 minutes ago “why do I feel like I’m not doing enough?” 😓 life is crazy, but we complicate it more by trying to compare and “keep up” with ppl that are quite possibly BEHIND us. Man, this hit so many chords. Great post, great post.
    Xo,
    Consuella

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      Monique Elise
      January 15, 2018 at 8:53 pm

      I can’t wait to read your post! We really need to give ourselves
      some credit!

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    padlok
    January 2, 2018 at 4:13 pm

    who you have sex with is your business regardless of your sex, of course no double standard should exist. can i say though that when you choose to use the word "hoe" (a shortened form of "whore") to denote "sex without commitment" you are attaching negative connotation to the concept of "sex without commitment". if you do not use "hoe"-ing to describe a guy’s sexual experiences then you’ve made the negative connotation something that only applies to women, and even if you do use it for guys then the negative connotation still applies to the concept in general. isn’t the point of the article the opposite?

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      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:01 pm

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your comment. It is a figure of speech that I wanted to use and turn a negative into a positive.

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    Deb Savage
    December 22, 2017 at 6:53 pm

    This was such an open and honest post. SO many think that you just need to abstain until marriage but that is not for everyone especially in this day.

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      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:08 pm

      It damn sure isn’t!! lol

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    Tiffany Yong
    December 22, 2017 at 6:23 am

    I feel so proud of you for speaking out! My bf actually said similar things as you too~ I mean the part where you wait till marriage for sex and ended up not enjoying it with your partner etc… He has been pretty open with me and want me to give feedback every time, and this really helped!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:08 pm

      Aww thanks love! I’m glad you got some answers!! Stop by again!

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    Nicky
    December 21, 2017 at 10:13 pm

    It was a very good read! Thanks for sharing this topic!
    Nicky x
    http://www.nickyinsideout.com

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:07 pm

      Glad you liked it!

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    courtney
    December 21, 2017 at 3:48 pm

    First of all, you look bomb in this pictures!! But really though, I love this article simply because its one of those taboo topics to discuss! Every person has the right to do what they want to do with their bodies, man or woman. This idea that women can’t explore sexually without being a "hoe" is dated af! I dint think being a hoe is in numbers anyway, I think its all about how you carry yourself and the manner in which you do your thing lol. I of course think we should all take precautions and be safe, but yes..we all have the right to do whatever tf we please!! Hoe on, sista!

    Xo,
    Consuella

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      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:07 pm

      Haha!! Yes boo I agree! Thanks for stopping by!

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    StuartBrazell
    December 21, 2017 at 7:41 am

    These are such great tips and a very empowering read!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:06 pm

      Glad you liked them!

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    Melissa Baswell Williams
    December 21, 2017 at 6:10 am
    1. You are a babe. 2. Those pants are amazing. 3. I need to watch that show.
    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:06 pm

      Haha! Thanks so much beautiful!! And yes you do! They just got approved for a season 2!

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    KatWalkSF
    December 20, 2017 at 10:38 pm

    I love this! You are fabulous!

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      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:05 pm

      Aww thanks girlfriend! <3

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    Julia Comil
    December 20, 2017 at 10:00 pm

    Great post and love how you are speaking with the subject! Being safe is important and doing what’s sound good to you will make you happy!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:05 pm

      Thank you!

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    Tonya Tardiff
    December 20, 2017 at 6:34 pm

    I couldn’t agree more!!! Hate the double standard — it’s bullshit. AMEN to #womenpower

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:05 pm

      ugh me too!

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    Laura
    December 20, 2017 at 3:55 am

    Great post! I come from France where women are way more open about their sexuality and have sex with different partners as much as men do. Do whatever you want to do as long as you respect yourself and does not hurt anybody!
    xx
    Laura

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      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:05 pm

      Exactly!! Glad you enjoyed it!

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    Julie Hartwell
    December 20, 2017 at 1:42 am

    This is so true girl. Thanks for sharing. PS. LOVE your outfit. 🙂

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:04 pm

      Thank you! xoxo

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    Ashley
    December 19, 2017 at 5:49 pm

    Intersting article, I can understand your point of view. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the subject.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:04 pm

      Thanks for reading!

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    Nina
    December 19, 2017 at 12:03 am

    I have always felt like everyone should just do what makes them happy. If someone wants to wait until they get married or aren’t into casual sex, it’s no big deal. And if someone wants to have casual sex, they can do what they want as well. I believe when we are truly happy with ourselves, it doesn’t matter if someone does something differently.

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      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:04 pm

      I agree 100%!

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    Irina
    December 18, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    I love the pictures! The pants are so awesome:)

    irinathayer.com

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:03 pm

      Thank you!

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    Genelle
    December 18, 2017 at 6:28 pm

    First of all, I loved this series and frankly, I don’t see anything wrong with what you’re saying. Like you said, things are more accepted these days. You can be anything or anyone you want…so why is it that in 2017 women are still being judged on their sexual preferences? It’s ridiculous. Do what makes you happy and forget everything else.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:02 pm

      I hear that!

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    Ariel
    December 18, 2017 at 12:52 am

    This is a very true post. Everyone is entitled to live their lives how they want. We shouldn’t make fun of people for their livestyle choices. Everyone will always have different views on lifestyle choices. All I have to say is you be you, I will be me and life will be good. 😊

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      January 3, 2018 at 7:02 pm

      Thanks for stopping by!

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    Ellie Plummer
    December 17, 2017 at 8:27 pm

    This is so so true. What a woman chooses to do with her life and body is her business and her business only. Life is too short to judge other people, focus on your own.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:19 pm

      I agree! Thanks for reading!

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    Sneha
    December 17, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    I really believe everyone has the right to choose and no one has the right to judge individuals based on their age or gender. Life is too short to think about what other people will think.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:19 pm

      I agree!

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    Evelina
    December 17, 2017 at 2:50 pm

    I couldn’t agree more! As long as it doesn’t harm anybody it’s nobody’s business what you decide to do with your life and body. Out of topic, I absolutely adore your trousers.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:18 pm

      AMEN TO THAT!

      And thank you! Got them from missguided!

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    corinne & Kirsty
    December 17, 2017 at 2:44 pm

    I haven’t seen the TV show but I have heard of it. That’s funny how it always causes outrage when it is about a women. Misogyny and all. Everyone should be allowed to lead their life as they wish without other judging

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:18 pm

      Yes it never fails!

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    Angela Ricardo Bethea
    December 17, 2017 at 2:10 pm

    That kind of topic is really trending nowadays. For me, it is so sensitive to talk about. But I believe that we all have the right to choose on how we will spend our life. As long as you know deep inside that you are happy for what you area doing, go! 🙂

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:18 pm

      It is a sensitive topic but I think it helps to open up the dialogue. Thanks for stopping by!

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    Shell
    December 17, 2017 at 3:08 am

    I haven’t seen that show but will now add it to my netflix lineup. I love this post because I think it’s awesome that you are empowered and share that with other women. We can be strong and empowered making choices that work best for us.,..

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:17 pm

      Thank you! Let me know how you like it.

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    vasundhra
    December 17, 2017 at 12:31 am

    I haven’t seen She’s Gotta Have It but would like to watch it after reading your post. Gender bias is real and our society favors men over women. This article is a great reminder that we should do what we want to do and not be bothered by what others say.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:17 pm

      Yes be sure to check it out! I think you’ll like it!

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    Thena
    December 16, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    Great article and you talk about some really interesting topics. To each their own is what I always say!!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:16 pm

      Thank you!

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    Jagriti Roy
    December 16, 2017 at 11:45 am

    I completely agree with your advice that one should always put their safety first before presenting them to be smart. Loved the way you written the whole post and tried to shape some advice from that..

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:16 pm

      Thank you !

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    Sarah | Diamonds N’ Denim
    December 16, 2017 at 4:43 am

    I love this post. I love that women are more socially accepted in the US to do whatever they please (in and out of the bedroom!). I was one of those strange girls who waited until marriage to have sex, and it has worked out so well for my husband and I. We’re very compatible, content, and comfortable to do lots of exploring and experimenting. Personally, I’m very content with my number only being one, and I have no regrets or fomo. BUT- I have a good friend who is now married who went through a “hoe phase”, and she doesn’t regret it one bit. Because society has changed so much to accept women for so many of their choices, sexual and not, both of us are comfortable with the reality of our backgrounds. I don’t feel like a “prude” and she doesn’t feel like a “Whore”. I’m thankful for our societial acceptance in 2017. Thank you for sharing this!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:16 pm

      Hi Sarah! Thanks for sharing your story! Yes I think it all depends on the person!!! We should just try and be more understanding!

  • Reply
    Cleo
    December 16, 2017 at 1:04 am

    I love this article! Love the fact you’ve addressed the double standards placed on women unnecessarily! Well written and perfectly illustrated! (gotta love an Issa Rae meme)

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:15 pm

      Thank you! And yes Issa is my sister in my head lol

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    Samantha Lowery
    December 15, 2017 at 11:17 pm

    Great post Monique! Great advice! Keep it coming Mo!

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      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:14 pm

      Thank you! <3

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    Joanna
    December 15, 2017 at 8:43 pm

    I liked She’s Gotta Have It, I thought it was a really smart show, except for maybe the last episode. That was very strange. I do think that men and women should live as they like to without being judged.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:14 pm

      Haha yes the last episode was very strange lol

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    Sydney
    December 15, 2017 at 4:50 pm

    I had my own issues with She’s Gotta Have It but her sexual freedom was not one of them. I think the choice to have as much (or as little sex) as one wants is necessary and I am glad society is beginning to allow women to live that way.

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      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:14 pm

      I agree!

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    Bea
    December 15, 2017 at 4:46 pm

    I have never watched this show so I think I need to go and have a look! But I do agree, everyone has their own lifestyle, as long as it suits them 🙂 We don’t all need the same thing

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:13 pm

      Yes check it out! It’s good.

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    Nik G
    December 15, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    I’ve watched all of the episodes of She’s Gotta Have It, and I enjoyed it. I don’t think the show is TOTALLY realistic in some aspects, but I think every person should date on their own terms.

    -Nik
    http://www.CurlsAndACamera.com

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      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:13 pm

      I agree, the last episode was a bit odd lol

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    Angie D. Hills
    December 15, 2017 at 1:19 pm

    Great post – I haven’t seen the show or heard anything about it. But I love the points that you make on the differences in women & men – I’m all for equality. As you said – it may not be for all & no judgment – but there should be the right to live your own lifestyle.

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      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:03 pm

      Thank you! It’s on Netflix if you ever decide to check it out!

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    Komal
    December 15, 2017 at 1:00 pm

    Holy crap I love this post! I have been wanting to see that show and had no idea what it is about. I feel like women should be able to do what ever the fuck they want to do!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:02 pm

      Thank you! Glad you like it!

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    Alicia
    December 15, 2017 at 10:17 am

    Well said. I think as a woman you have to know what you can handle. Not everyone can handle the hoe life lol. And if you can, do you! Everyone goes through the phase (men and women). What annoys me the most is when women get judged for it. Whatever you choose to do with your body, is your business just rememeber to be safe and keep it cute.

    Ps. Give me those pants!! 🙂

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      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:02 pm

      Hey Alicia! Thank you, that’s all I’m saying! Let people hoe is peace lol!

      They are from missguided!

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    Astin
    December 14, 2017 at 2:44 pm

    Wytrina! Awesome comment, Girlfriend 🙂 … Mo, BOMB article. Ho Phase. Some can do it – some can’t. I think that in a world we live in today, liberation is SO important. DO YOU! Make YOU happy! However, as you stated, it comes with a price. #Karma. Most important message of this article, "Do you Boo-Boo but BE SAFE." Black women, we are the leading cases of HIV/AIDS in America. Let’s break the STIGMA.! #Blessings.

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      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:01 pm

      Hey Astin boo!! Thanks for stopping by! And YES!! I agree

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    Wytrina
    December 14, 2017 at 2:30 pm

    I went through my “hoe phase” before I got saved and in that timing I thought it was necessary but now knowing the damage it can do I don’t care saved or unsaved it causes damage so your advice stands! Be safe, know what you can handle and don’t be out here cheating with other people’s mans lol great post

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 10:01 pm

      Hey Trina! Yes I think it all depends on the person! And it can cause damage if you’re not careful!

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    Kelly
    December 7, 2017 at 2:43 pm

    I think that everyone should do what works for them without letting everyone know their moves. People need to be much more focused on themselves, as opposed to what others are doing or letting people know that they are doing something that "everyone else" is not. I do a few of these to give myself a break- great suggestions! Have a great day!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      December 17, 2017 at 9:53 pm

      Thank you!

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    AmberLynn
    November 29, 2017 at 2:38 am

    I am a "work to live" kind of girl. I, too, need my 7-8 hours of sleep per night, and I feel no sense of care about the others who brag about working 24 hours. My anxiety intensifies if I don’t take time to decompress and step away from work, school, my blog, or whatever else is going on in my life. I do all four of what you suggested to give myself a break. Wonderful post!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:22 pm

      Hey love! Thanks for stopping by! So glad you liked my post <3

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    taylor
    November 28, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    I do agree we all need those moments to hang around and enjoy some relaxation, but I believe the majority of successful people are ones who wake up early and are highly productive.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:21 pm

      Hi Taylor, I think there is a difference between being productive and running yourself into the ground. Like I love Gary Vee he is a major BOSS and someone I admire, he’s literally taking over the world (IMO lol) he wakes up, busts his butt and works and even calls himself a workaholic, with all of that he still takes 7week long vacations to recharge. Thanks for stopping by!

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    Yen (GlossyCover)
    November 28, 2017 at 5:47 pm

    Yes, I subscribe to the "work to live" mantra. Occasional breaks for self-care is so important. I support your "do nothing" 100%. LOL

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Haha! Thanks girl!

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    meaghan
    November 28, 2017 at 5:31 pm

    AMEN!! I used to be on the work like crazy end of the spectrum. And it did lead to burnout, plus alot of unmet expectations of what life would be like if I just kept working harder and proved to everyone how dedicated I was. Now, by the grace of God alone, I have been able to about face and change my perspective completely. I believe we were put on this Earth to work, and that we each have a special gift to offer. But like you, I believe that if we overwork that gift gets lost in the shuffle and the world never gets to see the light you have to offer! So rest. Nap. Take care of yourself! Thanks for sharing!

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      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      AMEN Meaghan! So glad you were able to overcome that! xoxo

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    Oma N.
    November 28, 2017 at 3:39 am

    Great tips! Self-care is so important.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Thanks Oma!

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    Ellen
    November 27, 2017 at 4:00 pm

    Awesome post! Sometimes I work hard without breaks and it’s exhausting. I really needed this reminder to just chill :’)

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      Yes it is so important! Take care of yourself first! Thanks for stopping by!

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    Crystal Nicole
    November 21, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    This is spot on! Taking a break and taking care of yourself is essential!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      AMEN!

      xoxo

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    Tayja
    November 21, 2017 at 2:42 pm

    I love this and it’s so true! We shouldn’t have to justify taking a break or relaxing (especially when we work unbelievably hard). We all need a little down time in our life.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:16 pm

      Hi Tayja! EXACTLY!! Thanks for reading!

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    chris
    November 17, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    I agree, you need to take time for yourself, if I didn’t I would certainly lose it as I have come close. Reading, meditation, and just taking a walk helps me. Great post!!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:16 pm

      Hi Chris, thanks for stopping by! I’m still working on the meditation part lol

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    Michelle
    November 17, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    For a lot of people it’s a badge of honor to brag about how hard and hard many hours they work. I’m like you, I work very hard but I need my sleep and downtime,

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      Yup exactly! I need a break every so often! I work better!

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    Tisha
    November 17, 2017 at 3:06 pm

    Currently doing nothing and loving it- it was much needed lol! Great post as always!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:14 pm

      Haha! I hope you enjoyed it! Thanks doll!

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    Danielle
    November 17, 2017 at 5:12 am

    Happy Belated Birthday! I was just in Miami the week before you. I never made it to Wynwood and I’m bummed. Next time for sure!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 29, 2017 at 4:14 pm

      Aww thanks girl! Yes definitely make it out there next time. It is so chill and a really good time. xoxo

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    Toni
    November 16, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    Very good post. You see it all the time, especially on social media. People make it seem as though you have to sacrifice health and sleep to be successful; not true. Sure, there will be times those things are sacrificed, but it’s OKAY to rest (as you stated)…!

    Great tips and motivational nuggets of information!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 16, 2017 at 7:59 pm

      Hi Toni! Isn’t it annoying?! Thanks for stopping by! xoxo

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    Ben
    November 15, 2017 at 6:34 am

    Hi Monique,

    you have a great blog here. Your pictures are great.I like your style .Keep writing

    Thank you

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 16, 2017 at 7:58 pm

      Hi Ben! Thank you so much, I’m glad you like it.

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    lifeofthefattyd
    November 15, 2017 at 2:42 am

    In my opinion, it depends on the reason why you and your ex parted ways. If its trust issues then its a big no no. I believe trust is like a scar. It heals but the mark won’t easily go away. But if its just petty reason like having no time, or you need space.. I think I might reconsider.. love this post!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 16, 2017 at 7:58 pm

      Great points! Thank you so much for reading! xoxo

  • Reply
    Katey
    November 15, 2017 at 12:54 am

    Sometimes I think ‘did I do the right thing by breaking it off?’. But then I remember why I ended things.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 16, 2017 at 7:57 pm

      No regrets Katey!

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    kfey
    November 14, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    This is a hard conversation I’ve had many a times… thanks for taking the time to write this. So true. Just because it’s painful to be apart doesn’t mean it’s right to be together

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 16, 2017 at 7:57 pm

      So glad you enjoyed my post! And I agree <3

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    Anissa
    November 14, 2017 at 9:36 pm

    No because they are an ex for a reason. People don’t change unless they want to. Thanks for sharing !

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 16, 2017 at 7:57 pm

      I hear that! Thanks for stopping by xoxo

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    Yen (GlossyCover)
    November 14, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    Whether one takes an ex back or not, it is wise to evaluate the REASON(s) you split in the first place. I believe that the things you fought about back then will be what you will ALWAYS fight about in the future should you choose to be reunited with your ex.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 16, 2017 at 7:56 pm

      Hi Yen! You make such a great point! A lot of people forget to take that into consideration. Thanks for reading!

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    Megan
    November 13, 2017 at 1:12 pm

    I wouldn’t go back to an ex, even if I wanted to I think you just have to remember that they’re exes for a reason.

    I’m one of those people who can’t even be friends with their exes – it’s too weird. I prefer to go completely cold turkey – no matter how hard that is.

    Great read 🙂

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 13, 2017 at 3:54 pm

      Hi Megan! Thanks for stopping by!

      I agree with you. I learned that the hard way. Looking back at all the time I wasted I vowed to never do that again!!

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    Jem Lou
    November 11, 2017 at 11:16 pm

    Hi! I thought your post was very interesting, though it does appear more to address those who have purposefully distanced themselves from girl friends due to different issues, it was thought provoking. I hope that as women, we might also be mindful of the girl who struggles to fit in with different groups and, instead of ‘closing ranks’ to newcomers, try to help them feel more at ease, especially if you’re part of an established group, as it’s so hard to try to find common ground with a lot of new people at once. Thanks for posting! X

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 13, 2017 at 3:55 pm

      Hi Jem, that is such a great point!! I think at little empathy can go a long way. Thanks for reading!

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    rachel
    November 11, 2017 at 2:16 am

    Great post, I don’t think I’ve ever had good luck trying again with an ex.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 13, 2017 at 3:55 pm

      Thanks Rachel!

      Yes it’s definitely a huge bet! It works for some but not everyone. xoxo

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    Crystal
    November 10, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    Going back to an ex is a negative for me, for sure. I’m like you: once I’m done, I’m done. I think for things to work both parties had to have done some serious soul searching and have made changes individually. There’s no point in going back to something old if one or both people haven’t made the necessary changes.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 13, 2017 at 3:56 pm

      Say that Crystal! Thanks for stopping by love xoxo

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    Casi
    November 9, 2017 at 4:50 pm

    Ughh struggle with this one I’m still in love with ex and I want to work things out . There’s too many distractions I feel that get in the way . Good read

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 10, 2017 at 1:22 pm

      Thanks for reading love! If you feel like there’s some unfinished business maybe you should look into that!

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    Troy
    November 9, 2017 at 2:53 pm

    This post couldn’t have come at a better time. I made the mistake of calling my ex recently for all the reasons outlined in “(1)”. Forty minutes into the conversation, I said to my “this is that bulls$it I ran away from” ! Proceed with caution Ladies most times things are better left in the past if they ended for a legitimately good reason.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 10, 2017 at 1:22 pm

      Haha!!! People rarely change! Some do, but most don’t. Keep it moving! Thanks for reading love xoxo

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    Dee Jackson
    November 9, 2017 at 12:56 am

    I agree with you that we do need female friends in our corner to help build us up.
    https://mydeedeesdiary.com/

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 10, 2017 at 1:20 pm

      Thanks for reading!

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    Finlay grace
    November 8, 2017 at 7:27 am

    Totally agree will with you! We should be building our sister up not ripping them down!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:39 pm

      Yup! Say it again for those in the back! Lol, thanks for reading!

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    Marie
    November 8, 2017 at 2:36 am

    Definitely agree w you! There is no one else who can understand what you go through as a woman aside from other women!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:38 pm

      W O R D !!

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    Rebecca
    November 8, 2017 at 12:50 am

    I have always had a hard time connecting with women. It has taken me decades to find women who appreciate who I am. I don’t like drama. I don’t like messy. And I have better things to do than to sit around and talk about other people. These are just a few things that have kept me from connecting to other women. Yes, there are men who are drama-kings, but not as many as there are women. Or at least that has been my experience. I love the sista hood, but we can be tough to get along with.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:38 pm

      Hi Rebecca, thanks for stopping by. I’m sorry that you associate the words drama and messy with women… I believe we are so much more! I have also come to realize that nowadays men gossip just as much as women. Just a little different perspective here :-). I agree, as women we have room to grow and improve. But who doesn’t? Sisterhood is a beautiful thing especially when it’s genuine. Don’t give up hope just yet.

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    Kristi McAllister
    November 7, 2017 at 7:50 pm

    Ohhhh this one is touchy for me, but only because my very best friend of 24 years broke "girl code" with a guy I was interested in a couple of months ago. She knew we were talking and that I was interested in him and didn’t care a thing about it until she found out he was debt free, had a nice house with a pool, and made really, really good money. And what did she do? Pursued him behind my back and spent the night at his house and didn’t tell me until 5 days later. I’m no longer speaking to either of them. I am in total agreement that as women, we need to encourage each other and never cross personal boundaries. Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:35 pm

      Hi Kristi! I’m so sorry that happened to you!! And I agree with your stance 1000%. You never know they both may have some seriously deep issues they haven’t yet dealt with. I always say – HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE!

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    Holly
    November 7, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    I love this post! So true—women need to lift other women up.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:33 pm

      Amen Holly, AMEN! Thanks for stopping by!

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    Alicia
    November 2, 2017 at 2:54 pm

    Well said! Even if you keep your girlfriend circle small, it’s still very important to have one. The connection you have with your girlfriends is something you will never find with men. We just get it!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:33 pm

      Hey Leesh! I couldn’t have save it better myself! <3

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    Ciara
    November 2, 2017 at 2:13 pm

    My exact thoughts!!!! I was so happy when Issa said that. I don’t inderstand how women are so comfortable with not having a set of good girls friends. Good energy is inviting.
    Great post.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:32 pm

      Yes girl me too! I’m really trying to understand why some women feel that way. Thanks for reading!

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    Astin
    November 2, 2017 at 1:11 pm

    BOMB. This post was the BOMB.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:31 pm

      Hey Astin! Yassss so glad you enjoyed my post! xoxo

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    Tisha
    October 29, 2017 at 10:22 pm

    SERVING MELANIN REALNESS HONEY!
    Love it!
    I haven’t been to Miami in years- this definitely makes me want to go back!
    & happy belated birthday!!!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:31 pm

      Yassss! Thanks boo!

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    Kimberly
    October 29, 2017 at 10:15 pm

    I adored all your pictures! What a great post. It made me want to be in Miami like right now lol Thanks for sharing, the blog and the photos were awesome.

    Kimberly Love
    Author of Upcoming book, You Taste Like Whiskey and Sunshine,
    http://www.kimmilove.com, http://www.instagram.com/kimmiloveauthor, http://www.facebook.com/kimmilovetheauthor, http://www.twitter.com/kimmiloveauthor

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:31 pm

      Hey Kimberly! Thank you so much! Now that it is so cold I’m itching to go back lol

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    Donné
    October 29, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    Miami is on my bucket list! Thanks for sharing this. Great pics.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:30 pm

      Hi Donne’ ! I’d say go for it! Thanks for reading xoxo

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    Kathryn
    October 29, 2017 at 6:45 am

    what beautiful pictures. Would love to go one day..

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      November 8, 2017 at 4:29 pm

      Thank you so much! You should def go!

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    Toni
    October 27, 2017 at 10:36 pm

    Gorgeous pics! I love me some Miami. Every time I TRY to leave and live somewhere else, I still end up here, lol.

    Great way to capture the city!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 28, 2017 at 4:22 pm

      Thank you!! Yes I really like it. South Beach is ok but I’m definitely into exploring the entire city!!

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    marianne
    October 27, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    wow, your pictures are gorgeous. Really seems like a time well spent. What a lovely resent he got you, very lovely

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 28, 2017 at 4:23 pm

      Hi Marianne,

      Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed my post xoxo

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    Tamara
    October 26, 2017 at 10:50 pm

    Happy belated birthday😊 I ‘ve lived in Miami a few times in the past but you managed to he’ll me see it and feel it again for the first time. Thanks so much. This is a sweet piece.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 28, 2017 at 4:23 pm

      Aww thanks so much Tamara!! So happy you liked my post, thanks for reading!

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    Courtney
    October 26, 2017 at 2:51 pm

    I’m from Miami, born and raised so it’s always interesting to hear other people’s perspectives of my city! Lol. I love Miami, always will. Can’t wait to get back and enjoy some of the things you mentioned. I’m glad you enjoyed your 30th birthday beautiful! You deserve it!!

    Xo,
    Consuella

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      Monique Elise
      October 28, 2017 at 4:24 pm

      Thanks boo! Yes Miami is always a good time. Anywhere with nice weather and a beach is a win for me!

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    Pamela A
    October 23, 2017 at 9:23 pm

    Love all of these Mo. I definitely would add rest to this list as well (for myself personally, and I know you’re a go-getter too, so I’m adding it to yours). Keep crushing the game but take time for self-care, because we’re not robots.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 28, 2017 at 4:25 pm

      Pamela my love.. you are so right! Love you always! Thanks for reading xoxo

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    chelf
    October 21, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    Happy bday gorgeous! Taking more risks was a big goal of mine when i hit 30 as well! Still struggling with that but I think I’m getting there slowly 🙂

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      Thank you!! It’s a journey! Just take it one day at a time, that’s all we can do!

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    Sunidhi Agarwal
    October 21, 2017 at 5:34 pm

    Well, I love to travel as well! So, looking forward to read about your upcoming escapades 🙂

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      Thanks for reading!

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    ciurtney
    October 19, 2017 at 5:42 pm

    This was such a great post!! I used to dread my thirties too, but they’ll be here before I know it. Its so funny how we have all of these plans in our head and then life pans out completely differently. I think it just makes us stronger and prepares us for whats to come. Cheers to 30!! 🙂

    Xo,
    Consuella

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      So true! Naturally I plan everything but I’m learning some things are just left up to GOD. So I learn the lessons and trust the process!

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    courtney
    October 19, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    Happy birthday!! You look like you’re having the time of your life and that’s the way it should be. Your three tips are so key and I’m happy you’re implementing them in your life more.

    Xo,
    Consuella

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:19 pm

      Hey boo!! Thank you so much! All about growth!

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    WyTrina Wright
    October 19, 2017 at 2:21 pm

    Loved this !!! In 2 years I’ll be thirty !!! Looking forward to it! I’ve never really been excited about age lol

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:18 pm

      Yes! From what I hear 30’s is where it’s at!! I’ll keep ya posted <3

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    WyTrina Wright
    October 19, 2017 at 2:17 pm

    REST is my main goal when entering a new chapter

    REMEMBERthe past lessons
    Get ENTHUSED
    SELF CARE
    and TAKE IT SLOW

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:18 pm

      Love this!!!! Thank you!

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    Monique
    October 16, 2017 at 10:19 pm

    Great post. I was just thinking I need to reevaluate some of my friendships. I have two friends who are total energy suckers.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:17 pm

      Hey Monique twin! Lol, yes sometimes that is necessary. I had to do that myself. I found one of my friendships was extremely one-sided and when I would talk to her I’d be mentally exhausted! Had to let that go.

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    Judith
    October 16, 2017 at 5:55 pm

    Great post. Im alwsys a wirk in progress.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:16 pm

      Thanks for reading! Nothing wrong with that – life is a journey. Enjoy 😉

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    Toni
    October 13, 2017 at 3:31 am

    Great post! So true. Friendship is like a relationship with your partner. It’s for better or worse, literally. You made great points. Good job.

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      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:16 pm

      Hi Toni!! Thanks so much and I agree! Some of my friendships are going on 25 years. The type of relationship we have, we can be honest but we also know when to back off.

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    WyTrina Wright
    October 12, 2017 at 3:34 pm

    This was definitely a great read and I agree with both Consuella and Ashley! Wording is imperative because it can cause life or death. But also knowing your relationship! You have to know your friend. What will make them take that leap to change? I know my friends and when they know how serious I am it sets a fire under them for some reason. But those are the ones closes to me. Not everyone of them know that side of me. But girl loved this post !!!!

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      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:15 pm

      Yasssss Trina!! You are so right! Thanks for reading love!

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    Courtney
    October 12, 2017 at 3:20 pm

    This was a great read!! And honestly, we’ve all been there. I actually have a friend like this. And I love her to death but I’ve decided to take a hands off approach. Experience is life’s best teacher, I’ve learned that I just have to step back and let the cards fall where they may.

    Xo,
    Consuella

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      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      Sometimes a hands off approach is best! I def think it depends on the person also. Thanks so much for reading! xoxo

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    Ashley
    October 12, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    Omg!!! This is so spot on. I think all women have been in a situation where they don’t know if they should support or "check". I agree there is no clear-cut answer but I also think a strong portion of it depends on the approach we take when we do decide to "check" our friends. When "checking" we should focus on facts and be mindful of our work choice and tone. By focusing on facts as a friend it takes out a lot of the emotion. Our tone and word choice will play a huge part in how they receive the message. Calm and free of negative terminology would be most ideal. It’s super challenging though when you’re invested in your friends. Great post!

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      Monique Elise
      October 23, 2017 at 5:12 pm

      Hi Ashley! Thank you so much for reading! And yes I agree 100%!! The saying goes… it’s not what you say but how you say it!!!

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    Tisha
    October 10, 2017 at 4:21 pm

    This post is great- I love being inspired by changes others are making! Congrats on the book!. But girl this picture!!!!!!!!!!!! FIERCE!
    Love it!

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      Monique Elise
      October 11, 2017 at 12:48 pm

      Thanks girl!! I’m so glad you like it <3 <3

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    A. Ervin
    October 3, 2017 at 10:13 am

    Congratulations on your new book!!!! I love that you broke your future goals down to 3 categories. Ok definitely going to mirror this. Thanks for sharing!!! Keep it up.

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      Monique Elise
      October 4, 2017 at 6:16 pm

      Thank you so much! And yes I loveeee checklists! Lol there is something so fulfilling about being able to cross things off when they are done.

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    Ciara
    September 27, 2017 at 3:42 am

    Absolutely! I think fall is everyone’s favorite season and time of year! Congratulations on your book launch & I look forward to reading more of your blog posts!

    Xoxo, Kate

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      Monique Elise
      September 28, 2017 at 9:49 pm

      Thank you so much Kate!

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    Lesean mccall
    September 26, 2017 at 5:32 pm

    Love your website! Thanks for the tips!

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      Monique Elise
      September 28, 2017 at 9:49 pm

      Thank you so much!

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    Yesenia
    September 26, 2017 at 12:35 am

    Congrats on the novel. I moved a year and a half ago and I have so much decorating to do. I’m more like you and like a cozy space with lots of pillows. Think it’s a girl thing? lol

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      Monique Elise
      September 28, 2017 at 9:50 pm

      Haha same here!! And yes I think it is lol. Thanks for reading…

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    Anissa
    September 25, 2017 at 11:36 am

    Awesome tips! I. Need to start adding pieces to reflect the season

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      September 25, 2017 at 11:50 pm

      Thank you Anissa! I’m right there with you!

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    Emily
    September 22, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    I’m all about colling weather so I can hold a nice hot latte in my hand! 😀

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      Monique Elise
      September 25, 2017 at 11:49 pm

      Same here! I love curling up with a good book and a yummy drink!

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    Heather
    September 22, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    Wow. It sounds like a busy and exciting fall for you! I’d love to write a novel one day, and I’m so inspired by your having done so!

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      Monique Elise
      September 22, 2017 at 5:03 pm

      Thank you so much! And honestly you have to just go for it! The hardest part is getting started and sticking to it. But once it’s done, trust me you’ll be amazed!

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    mariam
    September 22, 2017 at 1:34 pm

    Good read. I also love fall season. Sorry about your illness, hope you are a 100% now that the hard part is over. Congrats on the book launch, sounds interesting.

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      Monique Elise
      September 22, 2017 at 5:04 pm

      Hi Mariam, thank you! I’m feeling much better – thank goodness. And feel free to check it out, ebook and paperbacks are available!

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    Laura
    September 22, 2017 at 9:40 am

    Your novel sounds super interesting, I’m definitely going to have to read that one!!

    Laura || http://www.thelifeoflaura.com.au xx

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      Monique Elise
      September 22, 2017 at 5:04 pm

      Thank you so much Laura! Let me know how you like it!

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    Kaylyn
    September 22, 2017 at 3:07 am

    Cheers to figuring out a home style that matches both of your tastes. I’m also working on that!

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      Monique Elise
      September 22, 2017 at 5:05 pm

      Girl!!! It is a process! And I have a super opinionated boyfriend! Lol. Good luck to you!

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    Courtney
    September 22, 2017 at 2:42 am

    Fall is without a doubt my favorite season! The holidays, the fashion, the weather change, the time change, even the air smells different! It’s definitely an energy booster and I love it!

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      Monique Elise
      September 22, 2017 at 5:06 pm

      Isn’t Fall just amazing!! I really like every season with the exception of winter lol. Thanks for reading!

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    Courtney
    September 22, 2017 at 2:40 am

    Such a lovely personal post. Sorry to hear you were sick! Also that first photo is stunning – the sunshine radiates out of you!

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      Monique Elise
      September 22, 2017 at 5:06 pm

      Aww thank you Courtney! xoxo

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    Heather LeGuilloux
    September 22, 2017 at 2:31 am

    I like these ideas. It’s like spring cleaning but more like fall revamping. I actually started to do a few of these.. selling items I haven’t been using, decluttering, reducing ‘stuff’. It feels so good and liberating! Thanks for the continuued motivation.

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      Monique Elise
      September 22, 2017 at 5:07 pm

      Hi Heather! Yes, that’s exactly what it is! It’s like a seasonal refresh! And it’s so liberating when it’s done! Good luck with your reorganizing!

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    TOMAK
    September 19, 2017 at 1:41 am

    so so motivating thank you for sharing

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      Monique Elise
      September 22, 2017 at 5:10 pm

      Aww thank you!

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    Angela
    August 29, 2017 at 1:03 pm

    I have to agree with what someone else commented, I love your style of writing! Awesome post girl, totally agree with everything you’ve said! xx

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      Monique Elise
      August 29, 2017 at 3:19 pm

      Aww thank you so much!!! I’m so happy you like it!! xoxo

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    Sara
    August 29, 2017 at 12:32 pm

    Be honest with yourself is 100% spot on!

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      Monique Elise
      August 29, 2017 at 3:19 pm

      Agreed!! It makes things so much easier! Thanks for reading!

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    Tara
    August 28, 2017 at 11:00 pm

    love the way you write. I can totally see you writing novels!

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      Monique Elise
      August 29, 2017 at 3:18 pm

      Thank you so much Tara!! That means a lot to me! I have one out.. you should check it out and let me know how you like it! <3

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    Kelley
    August 28, 2017 at 5:27 pm

    You are such an inspiration! I really want to write a novel in my spare time, as well. I’m working on some things…

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      Monique Elise
      August 29, 2017 at 3:17 pm

      Aww thank you Kelley! All I can say is "Go for it!"

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    Dieter
    August 28, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    Be yourself and no one else, dating needs to be fun and eye opening, if it is boring, forget it … skip, next

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 29, 2017 at 3:17 pm

      Thanks for reading Dieter!

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    Martha Boddie
    August 28, 2017 at 12:03 am

    Take your time – it’s true that finding love is a marathon and not a sprint. Keep your mind and heart open because you don’t want to pass up your prince charming for prince not-so charming…

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      Monique Elise
      August 29, 2017 at 3:16 pm

      AMEN Martha! AMEN!

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    Natasha Durel
    August 26, 2017 at 8:19 am

    vibes!! I always put in more effort than whoever i’m with and I’ve truly uncovered why that is. You truly do get what you put out. I feel you on the hopeless romanticism. I’m the same way! Loved this!

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      Monique Elise
      August 29, 2017 at 3:16 pm

      Yes! Vibes are major! Thank you for reading, so glad you enjoyed it!

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    Nicki
    August 26, 2017 at 8:10 am

    This is a perfect rundown on the perils of dating. I used to be that once that was attracted to the wrong people, as soon as I realised that I met my husband

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      Monique Elise
      August 29, 2017 at 3:15 pm

      Isn’t that how it always works!! Sometimes the ones we are supposed to be with don’t show up until we’re ready! Thanks for reading <3

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    Kelly Masotta
    August 23, 2017 at 2:02 am

    Great post! This has inspired me as to some new content ideas for my own site. I will surly be coming back to read more. #yougogirl

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 23, 2017 at 5:24 pm

      Amazing!!! I’m so glad you found some inspiration on my page! Thank you so much for reading <3 xoxo!

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    Sabrina
    August 21, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    This is so damn true- sad to say. But thank you for sharing let’s make it better!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 22, 2017 at 11:17 pm

      Thanks for reading love! And I am so down to make some changes! xoxo

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    Ciara
    August 21, 2017 at 2:43 pm

    Loooove this

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 22, 2017 at 11:17 pm

      Thanks love!

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    Antonio
    August 21, 2017 at 2:05 pm

    As a man, I’m a bit afraid to comment on this, but I completely agree. Women often bash each other for no reason with their Hera Complex. In reality, you should be bashing us guys or whoever is the guilty one. Actually, we should all together bash the guilty one or even better, stand above whatever is happening and be better people.

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      Monique Elise
      August 22, 2017 at 11:17 pm

      It’s so refreshing to get the male perspective! I know you guys look at us and just shake your heads when we pull the claws out! Thanks for reading <3

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    Laura
    August 21, 2017 at 1:12 pm

    This is wonderful! I have always been envious that guys can stick together and move on from the drama! Woman tend to hold grudges and compete! I am finding as I get older that good friends are hard to come by. However, if you find a good friend…. Don’t let them go! ❤️

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      Monique Elise
      August 22, 2017 at 11:16 pm

      So true! It really makes me sad. We can have our differences but the cattiness has to stop!

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    Sasha
    August 19, 2017 at 9:38 pm

    Interesting points.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 22, 2017 at 11:15 pm

      Thanks for reading!

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    Elizabeth O
    August 18, 2017 at 9:18 am

    Great experience. Always be inspired and enjoy your next trip.

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      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:52 pm

      Thank you! I’m trying xoxo

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    Nina Bashaw
    August 17, 2017 at 4:50 pm

    I haven’t been to NYC in years! I love your suggestion for the art museum, that looks like a really cool place to check out!

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      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:53 pm

      Yes! Check it out ASAP! It’s really nice. Thanks for reading.

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    Samantha Lowery
    August 17, 2017 at 1:52 pm

    Monique Elise….speaking truth young lady! It is truly appalling when women tear each other down instead of supporting, encouraging and inspiring to be their best selves. Let’s all embrace our phenomenal womanhood! Reach one teach one!

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      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:53 pm

      Yes, I agree. Thank you!

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    The Gypsy Gurl
    August 17, 2017 at 11:04 am

    Hi I have never been to New York and this post has motivated me to plan it soon. So I must say it’s right up there on my bucket list. Very cute pictures and a lovely post.

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      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:54 pm

      Thank you so much! And yes you should def go. I think there’s something for everyone there.

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    oursamyatra
    August 17, 2017 at 5:51 am

    A good weekend trip. Pictures are great. Content is unique.

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      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:54 pm

      Thank you!

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    Shell
    August 17, 2017 at 5:06 am

    What a wonderful weekend trip to New York City!!! It looks like you had such an amazing time and visited some wonderful places 🙂 This is definitely a weekend trip I would take!!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:54 pm

      You should!! I’m sure it will be a great time. Thanks for reading!

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    Shannon
    August 17, 2017 at 3:02 am

    I have never been to New York but it’s definitely on my list I would love to see the Statue of Liberty and time square. Sounds like you had a great time.

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      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:55 pm

      New York is amazing! I think everyone should visit at least once! Thank you for reading.

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    kristal
    August 17, 2017 at 2:40 am

    When I visited New York I did not want to leave I had such a good time. Also I was never bored or anything.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:56 pm

      I never want to leave! Lol the only reason I do is because I have to get back to work lol.

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    AmberLynn
    August 15, 2017 at 3:15 am

    I love visiting NYC, and I don’t think there will ever be a time when I feel like it is not magical (besides when I have to walk longer than 10 minutes LOL). Beautiful pics and outfit and I will definitely have to visit these places next time I go. This last trip that I took in June was way too quick for me to explore beyond what I already have. I already can’t wait to go back after this post!

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      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:57 pm

      Yes!! Go back and explore. I hate walking too but when you walk you can see so much more! Between that and Uber you can cover so much ground lol. I think SOHO is my favorite tho super chill and a good time. Thanks for reading!

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    Jamie
    August 14, 2017 at 6:05 pm

    New York City is always one of my favorite places! Love these photos, babe.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:57 pm

      Thank you! xoxo

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    Jena Leigh
    August 14, 2017 at 3:26 pm

    How nice. Seems like you guys had fun there. I’ve never been to NY but plan on going one day. I’ll check out the places you’ve been to😊

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      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 6:58 pm

      You should def check it out! I’m sure you won’t regret it. Thanks for reading and let me know when you decide to visit!

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    Gina
    August 13, 2017 at 5:51 pm

    wow this trip looks like it was exciting. I live so close to NYC, and barely ever visit. I need to go.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 18, 2017 at 7:00 pm

      OMG yes you do!! If I lived closer I might be there at least once a month!

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    Filipa
    August 13, 2017 at 3:23 pm

    I love the museum trip! I do hope that one day I’ll be able to visit NYC, would loveee to 😀

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 13, 2017 at 3:38 pm

      I hope you can too 🙂 It’s really a great city.

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    LA Shell
    August 11, 2017 at 10:56 pm

    I love NYC. I’m still to go to MoMA though. Lovely post.

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      Monique Elise
      August 13, 2017 at 3:37 pm

      I have to admit I normally go to NYC to party/shop/eat. However I was pleasantly surprised! Treat yourself and check it out. I believe it’s free on Friday nights 🙂

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    Torii
    August 11, 2017 at 8:23 pm

    Great suggestions! I will have to check out Little Prince when I go to NYC 🙂

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 13, 2017 at 3:36 pm

      Yes go!! It’s super cute!

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    Cassandra Rose
    August 11, 2017 at 8:03 pm

    The next time you’re here, you HAVE to visit Negrill. It’s a really cute Caribbean restaurant, bar and lounge in West Village and sometimes has live music. I love that place. You won’t regret it!

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      Monique Elise
      August 13, 2017 at 3:36 pm

      That sounds like so much fun! I normally go a a Caribbean spot in Queens… I’ll have to check that out. Thanks love!

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    Tyra
    August 11, 2017 at 7:41 pm

    I really hope to go to New York someday and have a glass of wine there and some good food. I also want to take a taxi for no reason haha. Thanks for sharing and inspiring me to hurry up and go!

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      Monique Elise
      August 13, 2017 at 3:35 pm

      Those two things can easily be done! You won’t be disappointed. I always have the hardest time when it comes to dinner because there are so many choices! So yes… hurry up and get to NYC! xoxo

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    LaToya
    August 11, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    I love the pictures and the info provided! I need to hint at me a bae-cation

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 13, 2017 at 3:33 pm

      Girl yes!! You guys will love it. I can’t wait to go back 🙂

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    Iris Venise
    August 11, 2017 at 3:43 pm

    I really want to go to New York some day! Actually I have never been in the US yet haha. Lovely post x

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 13, 2017 at 3:33 pm

      OMG, you’ll love it! There is so much to do and see!

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    Astin
    August 10, 2017 at 2:11 pm

    Definitely been to Little Prince. Had the salmon (my go-to!) Happy you enjoyed your mini-baecation! 🙂

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 13, 2017 at 3:32 pm

      Yes I am def going back. Thanks love!

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    Krissy @thoughtfullyunraveled.com
    August 8, 2017 at 9:57 pm

    Your 30’s are so much better than your 20’s. You have so much more figured out! I’m turning 35 in a couple months and honestly am loving this age.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      August 8, 2017 at 11:48 pm

      Thanks Krissy! Only two months left! I’m ready lol

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    Tiff Samara
    August 7, 2017 at 2:15 am

    Queenimony

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      Monique Elise
      August 8, 2017 at 6:05 pm

      <3 <3

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    Keiana
    July 30, 2017 at 10:21 pm

    Very refreshing to hear. Geez, thank you!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 31, 2017 at 5:11 pm

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for reading!

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    Trav
    July 27, 2017 at 2:01 pm

    I really appreciate this post. Although you were speaking to black women, me as a dark skinned black man grew up the same way, and went through the same issues. It took a while for me to learn how to embrace who I am and what I look like. But I love every bit of me. Great post Mo…

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      Monique Elise
      July 27, 2017 at 5:52 pm

      Aww thanks Trav! I’m glad you enjoyed it! I hate the whole light-skinned/dark-skinned crap. We are all beautiful and there is nothing wrong with embracing it <3

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    Needa
    July 26, 2017 at 1:07 am

    Its the hard time !! when you want to understand people what you are upto !! Will ordered my copy to find out more

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:31 pm

      Thank you!

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    Misty Nelson Dawn
    July 25, 2017 at 10:48 pm

    What a great post and such a helpful post I will share this with my friends too.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:31 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it!

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    Miss Lady
    July 25, 2017 at 10:36 pm

    Well…. from past experience, not everyone can handle the truth nor does everyone want to hear it. I personally would tell my friend what it is and let her do what she chooses.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:30 pm

      Yes it’s a very complicated situation. Thanks for reading!

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    Emely
    July 25, 2017 at 9:45 pm

    Even though it is a difficult situation, but I’d be that girlfriend to tell you what it is. You can hate me afterward but at least you know.

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:30 pm

      I hear you girl!

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    shuang
    July 25, 2017 at 2:38 pm

    Oh yes, it is such awkward situation. But if it’s me, I’d tell. Because I’d love to be told one day if my partner is doing shit out there.

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:29 pm

      I understand completely. Thanks for reading!

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    Adeyemisi
    July 25, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    Hmm… This is quite hard to deal with, what I do know is telling your friend about a cheating bf is not an easy thing… thanks for your suggestions they truly are helpful

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:29 pm

      Glad you think so. Thanks for reading!

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    kelly reci
    July 25, 2017 at 1:16 pm

    i have a bad experience also. luckily im strong and i do the i can. to move forward

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:29 pm

      Go girl! Thanks for reading 🙂

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    Stefanie
    July 25, 2017 at 9:27 am

    This must be such a hard situation… Lucky me i never had to be there. But i was on the other side when my ex boyfriend cheated on me and i really wish somebody would have told me

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:28 pm

      I think the situation sucks for all parties involved. Just know most of the time, the ones that knew and didn’t tell weren’t trying to be malicious! But if anything it is a lesson learned. Thanks for reading!

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    Charmaine
    July 25, 2017 at 7:00 am

    I also had experienced with "cheating". Dealing with it is really hard and takes a lot of time to heal. I’m glad I had overcome with that emotion. Just always be there for your friend, that helps a lot.

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:27 pm

      OMG it helps a bunch! Thanks for reading!

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    neha
    July 25, 2017 at 4:37 am

    Really a very thoughtful insight. These are exactly the points that I had to ponder on at times , whether to tell that friend or not…it’s always a tough place to be in

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:26 pm

      So tough! I hope you are able to find a solution you are comfortable with. Thanks for reading!

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    Yeu Doi
    July 25, 2017 at 4:34 am

    Great post. You raise some interesting questions. Will share.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:26 pm

      Thanks!

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    Darcy
    July 25, 2017 at 3:57 am

    OH my goodness! I haven’t had to think about this in a long time. Personally, I would hope you are close enough to your friend where she would trust you and find comfort in knowimg vs holding something in like that.

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:26 pm

      One can only hope! Thanks for reading!

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    Shell
    July 25, 2017 at 3:34 am

    This is a hard situation and can be difficult to know the right action to take…

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:25 pm

      I agree, it’s a very complicated position to be in.

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    Budget minds
    July 25, 2017 at 1:34 am

    Thanks for sharing this post. It was very informative and will be helpful to many of us.

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:25 pm

      Thanks!

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    Jackie | CareOnSkin.com
    July 25, 2017 at 1:33 am

    It’s a complicated situation. I always believe that the truth will set you free. It can be devastating and hard to accept but what can you do if its the truth. Great post!

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      Monique Elise
      July 26, 2017 at 7:25 pm

      Very complicated! The truth is always great but some people can’t handle it 🙁 Thank you for reading!

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    Tomyra
    July 22, 2017 at 3:05 pm

    Yes! I totally agree with this article! And women, especially around our age, should strive to be this way! We get so down on ourselves because we try to compare our lives to someone else’s and "not minding our own business" that we lose focus on what we want AND deserve. Be independent, have the man you want, have that career you worked hard for and live the life you deserve sistas!

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 24, 2017 at 11:14 am

      Yes! Times have changed and I think we can have it all!

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    Tomyra
    July 22, 2017 at 3:00 pm

    I’ve been in this situation before. However, I didn’t witness it firsthand, heard it from one of my other girlfriends so I didn’t tell her. I wanted solid proof and not just hearsay. It’s such a touchy situation though because you want to make sure your friend is being treated with respect but at the same time its risky for your own friendship. She ended up finding the "gossip" to be true and isn’t with the guy anymore but I think it’s best for the person to find out on their own.

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      Monique Elise
      July 24, 2017 at 11:13 am

      I agree. I also think it’s natural to want to protect your friend which is why I think a lot of people would tell. And I agree its a very touchy topic!

      Thanks for reading!

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    Janice
    July 20, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    Ain’t no way on Gods green earth im staying with a cheating man. When he cheats he is telling me that he doesnt want me anymore. #byebye

    • Reply
      Monique Elise
      July 24, 2017 at 11:12 am

      Once that trust is gone, it’s soooo hard to get it back!

      Thanks for reading!

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    Brittny
    July 20, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    I’ve been here before, a few times actually. I think it all depends who it is. Sometimes people get upset, especially if you’re bringing something to the light that they’ve been trying to keep in the shadows.

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      Monique Elise
      July 24, 2017 at 11:12 am

      I think that stems from being embarrassed. Which is completely understandable.

      Thanks for reading!

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    Mia P
    July 20, 2017 at 2:23 pm

    Just tell me (with evidence in hand) and I’ll take it from there! Now some forms of cheating CAN be reconciled (yes, it’s taboo to speak on ‘forgiveable’ forms of cheating" but honestly every situation is different). Speaking from experience. Now if we’re talking the type of cheating where it’s a whole affair & kids are involved then we have a mf’n problem!! Because an affair (or side-chick for us unmarried folk) requires an entire cover-up, bucket full of lies & deception. Once trust is lost, it’s damn near impossible to get back. But I would never get mad at a friend for telling me. Maybe because I’m secure with who i am and love myself.

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      Monique Elise
      July 24, 2017 at 11:11 am

      It’s a very sticky situation and I agree each one is unique. It’s hard to say what I would do.

      Thanks for reading!

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    kimberly
    July 19, 2017 at 1:25 pm

    I was reading something recently that talked about how the first couple of dates can go well but the littlest thing could set someone off. It was an interesting read for sure. Women have the hardest time with it because they are more considerate of others feelings and try to stick it out cause maybe things will change.
    But if it doesn’t work, let it be and go!

    Kimberly
    http://www.brunchandgloss.com

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      Monique Elise
      July 24, 2017 at 11:10 am

      OMG you are so right! But isn’t that a gift and a curse? I think it causes us to stay in situations longer than we should because we don’t like hurting other people’s feelings.

      Thanks for reading <3

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    Michelle
    July 19, 2017 at 1:45 am

    Great post. That sounds like a great show, I need to check it out

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      Monique Elise
      July 19, 2017 at 12:25 pm

      Thank you! It’s really funny. Season 2 starts this Sunday!

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    Jem
    July 18, 2017 at 11:26 pm

    Great read, it’s funny how something small and seemingly insignificant can instantly change our impressions of someone. I remember I was seeing a guy a few years ago and one day he turned up in baggy white shorts and looked so ridiculous with his skinny pale legs poking out from underneath. That was the end of that. Seems shallow now but I couldn’t help it at the time!

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      Monique Elise
      July 19, 2017 at 12:26 pm

      OMG yes! I think we all have been in that situation at least once. Thanks for reading!

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    Mary
    July 18, 2017 at 11:23 pm

    Ahaa! This is funny, definitely going to check out the show. I thoroughly enjoyed reading through your post, isn t it funny how we sometimes want to be courteous while trying to get out of certain situations. Great post

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      Monique Elise
      July 19, 2017 at 12:26 pm

      Haha! Thank you and you def should! And yes I agree, especially for me, I hate hurting people’s feelings! It stresses me out lol

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    Cecil
    July 18, 2017 at 10:24 pm

    Never heard of the show, but will definitely watch an episode to see what it’s all about. Good luck with your book!

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      Monique Elise
      July 19, 2017 at 12:27 pm

      Season 1 is On Demand! And thank you so much!

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    Zorica
    July 18, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    Great post! Thanks for sharing

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      Monique Elise
      July 19, 2017 at 12:27 pm

      Thank you!

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    Jovelyn Mateo
    July 18, 2017 at 10:59 am

    Made me want to watch the show as well. Haha. Good read!

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      Monique Elise
      July 19, 2017 at 12:27 pm

      You def should! Thanks for reading <3

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    Lorena
    July 18, 2017 at 7:26 am

    Fun to read ☺

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      Monique Elise
      July 19, 2017 at 12:27 pm

      Thank you!

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    Angela
    July 18, 2017 at 5:41 am

    Ha! "Let’s be friends" was my go-to line when I was single. For me, I think it was a matter of me needing to know myself to better understand what I wanted from my partner. I am now happily married! I’ve intended to watch Insecure (season 1) for a while. Thanks for the reminder that I should do that!

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      Monique Elise
      July 19, 2017 at 12:28 pm

      It was mine too lol. And I agree – congrats on your marriage! Season 2 starts Sunday and Season 1 is On Demand!

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    Jessica
    July 14, 2017 at 8:41 pm

    It turns me off when a guy is not ambitious…I want to travel the world and I want to be with someone who is not afraid of doing so. I don’t really think I’ve ever had an awkward breakup. When it is done is done. It is better to be direct in my opinion!

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      Monique Elise
      July 15, 2017 at 5:07 pm

      Key lesson : When it’s done it’s done! I couldn’t agree more.

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    Daneen
    July 14, 2017 at 5:28 pm

    Been there, done that! I remember one time I met someone and after a couple of dates we were going to be intimate, and he walked out of his room in nothing but tidy whities and black socks. That’s it. White underwear, black dress socks. He was extremely hairy, like everywhere but his head, which was completely bald; he had a belly, which honestly didn’t bother me as much as the excessive body hair, but it was the black socks really did me in. I had no idea he had all that going on under his clothes and I just couldn’t go through with it. It was REALLY hard to extricate myself from that situation too. I mean, what do you say???

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      Monique Elise
      July 15, 2017 at 5:06 pm

      Yes! Ugh isn’t it so uncomfortable?! It’s like you don’t want to hurt their feelings but you also don’t want them to touch you! Lol. Glad you made it out!

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    Saidy
    July 14, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    Um! Wow This was very intriguing and special to read ❤️❤️❤️ Keep it up hun.

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      Monique Elise
      July 15, 2017 at 5:04 pm

      Thank you!

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    Seema
    July 14, 2017 at 11:47 am

    Interesting write up….

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      Monique Elise
      July 14, 2017 at 11:57 am

      Thank you? Lol

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    La Dolce Musica
    July 12, 2017 at 12:45 pm

    What a great article!

    http://nouw.com/ladolcemusica

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      Monique Elise
      July 14, 2017 at 11:56 am

      Thank you!!

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    Mia P
    July 11, 2017 at 1:13 pm

    Love this Monique!! The key in all this is finding someone who will be a partner not just a lover with the "boyfriend" title. Someone who understands your drive and will ride with you! And vice versa. I’m happy to say I found this. Even at the point when I thought i was the most un-loveable. Thank you for this affirmation!

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      Monique Elise
      July 12, 2017 at 12:47 am

      I’m glad you enjoyed it Mia! And yes partnership is key! I’m so happy that you were able to find yours <3

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    Selina Almodovar | Christian Relationship Blogger & Coach
    July 11, 2017 at 7:26 am

    This was good! I’m a Christian Relationship Blogger/Coach and women are constaystick in the boat of either feeling/being "too desperate" or "too independent". But I agree: if you fight for success in everything else, why not a successful relationship?

    I think our culture has shifted the focus in that having that relationship is no longer needed and if it’s desired, then you must need it! Ain’t nothing wrong with wanting to bring more love in your life! And there’s also nothing wrong with letting that love be a strong force that matches your own strength, as long as it’s the right love!!

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      Monique Elise
      July 12, 2017 at 12:46 am

      Ahh yes Selina! I agree! There is nothing wrong with being ambitious and wanting love! Society today drives me nuts at times. Maybe I’m a hopeless romantic.

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    Elena Zahir
    July 10, 2017 at 9:45 am

    You make me want to watch that series! I think you raised some very interesting points here and I love how you structured this post with beautiful photography. I’m a firm believer that we can have everything we want too. Thanks for sharing!
    xx Elena
    http://www.elenazahir.com

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      Monique Elise
      July 12, 2017 at 12:44 am

      Thank you Elena! I’m so glad that you enjoyed my post! I will be releasing Dilemmas Of a Damsel next month and it will be available for pre-order very soon! Stay tuned for updates! xoxo

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    Sharon Chanyau
    July 7, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    "No matter how you look at it I think that we can all agree on one thing: one-sided relationships breed resentment. Staying with someone out of need rather than want can get pretty messy" I just love this part. Great advice hun. Well done

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      Monique Elise
      July 8, 2017 at 4:44 pm

      Thank you!! I’m glad you enjoyed it!

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    Victoria
    July 7, 2017 at 3:53 pm

    This is all very sound advice. Trying to be tough just ends up in us sitting in front of the TV at night wishing we had someone. Going through life with sweaty palms, worried about what might happen is no way to live. Very smart post! xo

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      Monique Elise
      July 8, 2017 at 4:44 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it!!

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    Marina
    July 7, 2017 at 2:30 pm

    Words of wisdom! great post! I agree on everything.

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      Monique Elise
      July 8, 2017 at 4:44 pm

      Thank you! Stay tuned for the release of my novel, it covers all the relationship goodies <3

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    Candice
    July 1, 2017 at 2:14 pm

    Monique! This is amazing. Thank you for your encouragement and your boldness. This is timeless.

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      Monique Elise
      July 1, 2017 at 4:29 pm

      Thank you so much Candice! I’m so glad you enjoyed it <3

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    Sheila Gordon
    June 30, 2017 at 7:03 pm

    Speak my Sister! We are all one, we are empowered to "lift up one another" and to attack the negative bull—- that these immature, insensitive haters uphold!!! It’s about loving and embracing who you are so that we can spread & share the LOVE.

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      Monique Elise
      July 1, 2017 at 4:29 pm

      My thoughts exactly!

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    Troy Blake
    June 30, 2017 at 12:36 am

    Your website looks awesome Monique. Keep up the good work. Congrats!

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      Monique Elise
      June 30, 2017 at 12:42 pm

      Aww thank you Troy! <3

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    Sierra Lewis
    June 29, 2017 at 4:17 pm

    ❤️❤️

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      Monique Elise
      June 29, 2017 at 8:08 pm

      Thanks for reading <3

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    Jas
    June 29, 2017 at 2:38 pm

    This is great! I am so glad you’re using you’re platform to educate, encourage, and enlighten! Thank you for that letter. It is necessary.

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      Monique Elise
      June 29, 2017 at 8:09 pm

      I’m glad you enjoyed it love<3 feel free to share it with who ever you think needs it!

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    Michelle
    June 29, 2017 at 2:15 pm

    Very well said, thank you for this!

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      Monique Elise
      June 29, 2017 at 8:10 pm

      It had to be said! I’m so glad you enjoyed it!

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    Jael
    June 25, 2017 at 11:16 pm

    i turned 20 and I’m so nervous about "making it" this was sorta soothing, thank you

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      Monique Elise
      June 28, 2017 at 12:15 pm

      Jael… Have fun! Your twenties are your time to get to know yourself – what you like, what you hate EVERYTHING! I swear don’t put all that pressure on yourself. Enjoy your life and pay special attention to things that make you happy <3 Oh to be 20 again!

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    Gina
    June 24, 2017 at 1:20 am

    30 is the new 20!

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      Monique Elise
      June 24, 2017 at 2:30 pm

      That’s what I keep hearing!

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    Shirley
    June 23, 2017 at 11:45 pm

    I just turned 30 and can relate! We place a lot of expectations on ourselves in our 20’s but sometimes life has other things in store. It seems that you have grown a lot as a person and that is the most important thing.

    By the way, I love that outfit!

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      Monique Elise
      June 24, 2017 at 2:30 pm

      SOOOO true! I am a master planner, I had to learn how to take that unnecessary pressure off of myself and I am so glad I did! Happy belated birthday <3

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    jay
    June 23, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    Love your style !! Youre gonna rock you thirties hun !!

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      Monique Elise
      June 23, 2017 at 8:53 pm

      Aww thank you so much! I hope so!

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    Samantha Lowery
    June 21, 2017 at 11:50 pm

    Yes Monique Elise! Your 30’s are truly an amazing adventure! You have what you need and you have what it takes to have a fabulous decade! But your 40’s will supercede your your 30’s and your 50’s will be the sh….t! Hello!!! Love you! So proud!

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      Monique Elise
      June 23, 2017 at 4:04 pm

      <3 Thank you!

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    Sheila Gordon
    June 17, 2017 at 2:31 pm

    Absolutely, being true to self and being the "unique" person that God has intended us to be. Thank God for loving Mothers’ who instill self esteem to be an individual, to be leaders and not followers of everything and everyone else❣️In a world where women are objectified by "body parts",instead of our "brains", your blog is so inspiring❣️Kudos to your Mom, Sam❤️
    Sheila Gordon

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      Monique Elise
      June 21, 2017 at 12:16 am

      I’m glad you enjoyed it! And yes my mom is amazing! Thank you <3

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    Meg Von Glahn
    June 9, 2017 at 12:08 am

    At the airport headed to San Juan as we speak… I agree, culture and people are amazing, they live life on their own schedule … and I love it! Nice read

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      Monique Elise
      June 13, 2017 at 2:34 pm

      I hope you had a great trip!!

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    Darlette Williams
    June 8, 2017 at 9:34 pm

    I enjoyed San Juan also! I most definitely want to take my hubby back so he can enjoy the experience too! Thanks for sharing! You showed a a beautiful baecation experience!

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      Monique Elise
      June 13, 2017 at 2:34 pm

      Thank you! And you def should! I think that he would really enjoy it!

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    Cassandra lowery
    June 8, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    Great read sis!

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      Monique Elise
      June 13, 2017 at 2:34 pm

      Thank you babe!

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    Brizz
    June 8, 2017 at 2:17 pm

    All Facts!! Good stuff 👏🏽

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      Monique Elise
      June 13, 2017 at 2:35 pm

      Thank you! <3

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    Samantha Lowery
    June 8, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    Hey Monique Elise! I truly enjoy your shared experiences! Making me wanna go to PR!

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      Monique Elise
      June 13, 2017 at 2:35 pm

      You should! It’s a great place.

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    Katrina
    June 2, 2017 at 9:00 pm

    So proud of you

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      Monique Elise
      June 3, 2017 at 5:26 pm

      Thank you Trin!!

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    Samantha Lowery
    June 2, 2017 at 7:25 pm

    Totally true! One can lose oneself in Cali! Saving the coins to go out end of summer! Luv it Monique Elise! Mom

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      Monique Elise
      June 3, 2017 at 5:25 pm

      <3

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    Samantha Lowery
    June 2, 2017 at 7:16 pm

    Monique Elise has arrived! I am so proud of you! Stay inspired and uplifted! Keep up the good work! Mom

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      Monique Elise
      June 3, 2017 at 5:25 pm

      Lol thanks mom!

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    Karessa B.
    June 2, 2017 at 4:07 am

    Love it !! 💝

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      Monique Elise
      June 3, 2017 at 5:25 pm

      Thank you!

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    Chantel
    June 2, 2017 at 2:59 am

    Get it girl 🙌🏼 I’m so proud of you and your hard work!!! Keep doin’ your thang!!!!

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      Monique Elise
      June 3, 2017 at 5:24 pm

      Thank you love!!

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    Bashairra
    June 2, 2017 at 1:17 am

    I loved this. Made me want to visit LA asap!

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:42 am

      I’m glad you enjoyed it! And yes book that trip ASAP! I’m thinking about taking another trip myself!

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    Isatta
    June 1, 2017 at 9:56 pm

    Absolutely love it! Just the kind of inspiring and relatable content I need in this time of my life.

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:41 am

      Thank you! Stay tuned each Thursday for more XOXO

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    Vivian Ogbonnaya
    June 1, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    This is great girl!! Congrats to you!!

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:40 am

      Thank you! XOXO

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    JT
    June 1, 2017 at 6:27 pm

    Aye this is lit!

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:40 am

      Thank you!

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    Cheo
    June 1, 2017 at 5:32 pm

    Congrats! Im proud of you babe!

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:40 am

      Thank you babe <3

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    NATALIE MENDOZA
    June 1, 2017 at 4:40 pm

    Monique,
    I love this!!!This is just an AWESOME idea…
    I am someone that loves to compliment and you look beautiful in those pics… It is very true, we often compare our lives to others and we don’t ever take a step back to acknowledge ourselves and every step taken thereof…Everyone has a story and sharing yours was a great thing to do…

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:40 am

      Hi Natalie!

      Thank you so much!

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    Lauren
    June 1, 2017 at 4:08 pm

    Gooooo Lady this is soo dope!! You should be very proud of yourself! Keep going! 😍

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:39 am

      Aww thank you so much! I still can’t believe it’s actually here!

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    Cassandra lowery
    June 1, 2017 at 3:11 pm

    This is amazing so proud of you and all your work!

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:38 am

      Thank you sister!!! <3

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    Brandon Davis
    June 1, 2017 at 2:36 pm

    Niiiicceee! #americandreaming

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:38 am

      Thank you!

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    TiffJenkins
    June 1, 2017 at 2:11 pm

    QueensConquer– keep it up love!

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:38 am

      YASSSSS Queens! Thank you!

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    Alnecka
    June 1, 2017 at 2:09 pm

    Freakin Love it!!

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:37 am

      Thank you!! So glad you enjoyed it!

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    Sabriya
    June 1, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    Okaaaay AWESOME Sauuuuce!! 😍💕😘! !

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      Monique Elise
      June 2, 2017 at 1:37 am

      Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it! Stay tuned for more every Thursday!