Have you ever looked at your partner and thought that all that has gone wrong in your relationship is their fault? Like you two would have more sex if they were more affectionate. Your communication would be better if they’d stop shutting down. This vicious cycle, my friends, is known as “the blame game.” It’s like a ping-pong match between two people that involves shifting responsibility for everything that’s gone wrong between them. The back and forth can make your head spin if you’re not careful.
A while back legendary rapper, Nas, shocked us all when he took to his Instagram account and posted a 7-part tell all about his nasty custody battled with ex-wife and famed singer Kelis. Let’s just say – it was pretty shocking, especially since just a few months earlier, Kelis alleged that Nas was abusive AF during their five-year marriage. Since their divorce in 2010, many of us have watched from the sidelines as the two have been in and out of court duking it out for custody of their child. However, Kelis’ latest accusations had us all clutching our pearls!
Fast forward five months, Nas has come forward with this side of the story. I guess we’ll never truly know the dynamics of their relationship and what actually went down, but,I have to say that a breakup can really bring out the worst in people. It’s important to remember when separating from a partner, it’s important to be better, not bitter in the end.
Have you ever been with a guy that just never seemed capable of getting their shit together while you were dating? If you have, you know how frustrating it can be to feel let down by his inability to step up to the plate and handle his business. Maybe he procrastinates a little too much, doesn’t take his future as seriously as he should, or is just flat-out lazy. The day comes when you finally dump him, and it seems like the huge weight of his poor decisions has been lifted off of your shoulders. Good riddance…right? Fast forward to the future and your ex looks hauntingly good and doing even better. In fact, he’s somehow morphed into the man you’ve always wanted – but he’s now that man with another woman.
There’s nothing I love more than to pour myself a glass of wine, indulge in my favorite sweets and tune in to watch Iyanla Vanzant come in and try to help people get their shit together. Her show “Iyanla Fix My Life” addresses some hard issues people are dealing with on a daily basis. Maybe it’s due to the fact that I, myself, love helping others and giving advice, or that I always end up with a lesson learned at the end of the hour-long show. Whatever it is, I’m hooked! Continue Reading
Valentine’s Day is a widely celebrated day of love and romance – and it will be here before we know it. Couples and lovebirds come out in droves to show their love and appreciation for one another with gifts, roses, and an overload of chocolates. If you’re single, I’m sure this day can be annoying if you allow it to. Many of us don’t like being made to feel like we’re intentionally being left out especially because of our relationship status! Trust me, I’ve been there. I say enough with all that. Self-love is the most important form of love there is. And the love you have for yourself should be celebrated! If you’re single, you have as much right as anyone to enjoy your Valentine’s Day as you see fit.