Last week it was reported that singer and Love and Hip-hop Hollywood star, Teairra Mari’s (ex?) boyfriend released a sex tape for the world to see, without her consent. Now since this story has dropped, there have been many twists and turns that I refuse to get into (it’s just too messy in my opinion). Instead, I’d like to focus on a much larger and sadly common issue – revenge porn. It’s no secret that we live in a digital age, we have so many things at our fingertips; that type of freedom is actually pretty liberating if you ask me. But where there is good, there’s also bad! I think it’s safe to say that revenge porn is a prime example of what’s not so good about the internet.
Hey guys! I hope you all missed me as much as I’ve missed you! I’ve been so busy writing books, working events, and such but I’m back and ready to chat. As many of you all know – I love my girl, Issa Rae! She’s a sister that can do no wrong in my eyes; she’s down to earth, driven, witty, and a boss. Like many of her fans, I’m just patiently waiting for season three of Insecure to start (Umm HBO – Chop! Chop!) Well this past week, Ms. Issa has been a major topic of discussion. To be frank, she seemed to have pissed off quite a few people with an excerpt that surfaced from her 2015 memoir “The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl”. In it, she discusses the challenges successful black women face in the romance department. She then suggests that black women should date Asian men since they’ve also been labeled as the least desirable when it comes to dating. That would seem like a logical solution right? It depends on who you ask. Now I haven’t read the book, yet, but I’d think that people would know that anything that comes from Issa Rae will have some humor tucked in there. That being said, I think there’s a bigger issue at hand. As time moves us forward, interracial relationships are on the rise. In addition, statistics show that black women outnumber black men AND black men are twice as likely to date/marry outside of their race. But when a black woman does it or encourages others to do so it’s given the major side eye. What’s up with that?
As if trying to meet someone that you’re attracted to, compatible with, and interested in isn’t hard enough…add a couple bad dates into the mix and you may want to throw the towel in on dating altogether. After a bad date, you start thinking to yourself “Maybe being single isn’t that bad after all” or “Why me?!” Trust me, I get it! I, myself am no stranger to the bad date. In fact, I can remember one quite vividly that sent me home in tears by the end of the night (I’m highly emotional, don’t judge me). Looking back on it now, I definitely would’ve handled that situation differently. But hey, you live and you learn right? If that horrible date never happened, I wouldn’t be able to share some of my knowledge with you!