Are you someone that constantly finds themselves in screwed up dating situations? Are you often put into the friend-zone or fail to get the person you’re in love with to commit? Ever feel like you’re putting in more effort than the other person? Like you’re always available for them, yet they’re always too busy for you? Do you ever get the feeling that you’re forcing something that’s just not there? You’re so eager to fall in love and settle down, but you just keep coming up short? Truth is… you probably are! Continue Reading
Ever liked someone and they suddenly vanished out of your life without warning? You two talk pretty much every day, have gone on plenty of dates, and become close. This person really has the potential to be your next boo thing; and then all of a sudden POOF! They’re gone, suddenly evaporate into thin air like a ghost, with no rhyme or reason. I call this ghosting or being ghosted, and it can happen to any of us – no one is safe. As with many of the things that can go wrong when it comes to dating, being ghosted is another risk to add to the list. And although the idea of it happening to you may seem mortifying, the person that’s ghosted you may have done you a favor. Continue Reading
As if trying to meet someone that you’re attracted to, compatible with, and interested in isn’t hard enough…add a couple bad dates into the mix and you may want to throw the towel in on dating altogether. After a bad date, you start asking yourself “Maybe being single isn’t that bad after all” or “Why me?!” Trust me, I get it! I, myself, am no stranger to the bad date. In fact, I can remember one quite vividly that sent me home in tears by the end of the night (I’m highly emotional, don’t judge me). Looking back on it now, I definitely would’ve handled that situation differently. But hey, you live and you learn right? If that horrible date never happened, I wouldn’t be able to share some of my knowledge with you!
I like to think of myself as a hopeless romantic. I love…love. I gravitate towards stories that tug at my heart-strings and I live for a happy ending. I guess that’s why I chose to write my romance novel Dilemmas Of a Damsel in my spare time. That’s not to say that my own personal experiences were all rainbows and roses – because that simply is not possible. But going through heartache helped me learn some hard lessons about myself and what I truly wanted.
Regardless of it all, I wouldn’t change a thing because it made me who I am today, and I think I’m pretty awesome (wink). That being said, I know some people who seem to have no luck as far as dating, and falling in love is concerned. Also, I know how easy it can be to feel like the cards are stacked against you when it comes to meeting someone who is actually worth your time. After a while, exhaustion sets in and you find yourself asking, “Why is dating so damn hard?”
HBO’s Insecure is easily one of my favorite shows. It’s raw, fun, REAL, and extremely entertaining! I’m so excited and ready for season 2! Just to hold me over, I’ve been watching old episodes from season 1 over the last few days. One of my favorite moments was when Molly reconnected with this great guy Jared. The two were super cute together and Jared really seemed to be everything that Molly was looking for. Things were going great until he was a little too honest over dinner and revealed that he once had relations with a man. Molly was clearly shocked by his honesty and almost immediately turned off. Initially she opts to put her apprehension to the side, but finally concludes that she simply can’t look past it, no matter how great of a guy he was.
A not quite similar situation happened with a friend of mine. She met a guy, and really liked him until one night he showed her what he was working with and she was just not impressed! So I got to thinking – isn’t it crazy how you can meet someone and really like them and then instantly be turned off?