Ever liked someone and they suddenly vanished out of your life without warning? You two talk pretty much every day, have gone on plenty of dates, and become close. This person really has the potential to be your next boo thing; and then all of a sudden POOF! They’re gone, suddenly evaporate into thin air like a ghost, with no rhyme or reason. I call this ghosting or being ghosted, and it can happen to any of us – no one is safe. As with many of the things that can go wrong when it comes to dating, being ghosted is another risk to add to the list. And although the idea of it happening to you may seem mortifying, the person that’s ghosted you may have done you a favor. Continue Reading
As if trying to meet someone that you’re attracted to, compatible with, and interested in isn’t hard enough…add a couple bad dates into the mix and you may want to throw the towel in on dating altogether. After a bad date, you start asking yourself “Maybe being single isn’t that bad after all” or “Why me?!” Trust me, I get it! I, myself, am no stranger to the bad date. In fact, I can remember one quite vividly that sent me home in tears by the end of the night (I’m highly emotional, don’t judge me). Looking back on it now, I definitely would’ve handled that situation differently. But hey, you live and you learn right? If that horrible date never happened, I wouldn’t be able to share some of my knowledge with you!
I like to think of myself as a hopeless romantic. I love…love. I gravitate towards stories that tug at my heart-strings and I live for a happy ending. I guess that’s why I chose to write my romance novel Dilemmas Of a Damsel in my spare time. That’s not to say that my own personal experiences were all rainbows and roses – because that simply is not possible. But going through heartache helped me learn some hard lessons about myself and what I truly wanted.
Regardless of it all, I wouldn’t change a thing because it made me who I am today, and I think I’m pretty awesome (wink). That being said, I know some people who seem to have no luck as far as dating, and falling in love is concerned. Also, I know how easy it can be to feel like the cards are stacked against you when it comes to meeting someone who is actually worth your time. After a while, exhaustion sets in and you find yourself asking, “Why is dating so damn hard?”
HBO’s Insecure is easily one of my favorite shows. It’s raw, fun, REAL, and extremely entertaining! I’m so excited and ready for season 2! Just to hold me over, I’ve been watching old episodes from season 1 over the last few days. One of my favorite moments was when Molly reconnected with this great guy Jared. The two were super cute together and Jared really seemed to be everything that Molly was looking for. Things were going great until he was a little too honest over dinner and revealed that he once had relations with a man. Molly was clearly shocked by his honesty and almost immediately turned off. Initially she opts to put her apprehension to the side, but finally concludes that she simply can’t look past it, no matter how great of a guy he was.
A not quite similar situation happened with a friend of mine. She met a guy, and really liked him until one night he showed her what he was working with and she was just not impressed! So I got to thinking – isn’t it crazy how you can meet someone and really like them and then instantly be turned off?
Dilemmas Of a Damsel is a three-part series following three women as they navigate the dating world. Part I follows Jade James, a successful, independent woman that prides herself on knowing exactly what she wants and how to get it. Being a modern woman of today, Jade is an independent go-getter that’s not afraid to go after whatever her heart desires. In the love department, however, she’s had little success. Now pushing thirty, Jade has grown tired of being criticized for her inability to settle down and she wonders if her ambitions have come at the sacrifice of falling in love.
Much like Jade, many women face ridicule for being considered too independent and they are often forced to choose between that and love. There seems to be this idea that if you are a woman that wants love, you can’t also be focused on having a career (just an example). So I have to ask, has our new found independence doomed our chances of finding love? Continue Reading