Issa Rae once tweeted, “I feel sorry or women who don’t have female friends.” Quite honestly, I couldn’t agree more. There’s something about having a connection with other women that can’t be replaced by relationships with men. Keep reading to learn about the importance of sisterhood and why every woman needs her girlfriend(s)!
The Importance of Sisterhood
What I love most about female friendships is the undeniable sisterhood that women have no matter what we may have. That bond is like no other. Men will never understand what it takes to be a woman. No matter how much we try to educate them and provide insight into what it’s like to walk a mile in our shoes – and vice versa. And in today’s society with so much controversy surrounding sexual abuse, feminism, the constant pressures we face to be women – we need one another. I don’t care how many guy friends you have – there is something that simply can’t replace good ole’ girl’s talk, a night out with the girls or just an unspoken understanding of one another.
The Key to Solid Friendships
Now I’d like to add here that not all friendships are created equally. Certain people will serve different purposes in your life and that is perfectly fine. Also, I’m sure that you know that not all friendships will last forever, but that is ok. People grow apart and no love needs to be lost. The key to solid friendships is to find women that you can genuinely learn and grow with, be your truest self, and be happy and comfortable with who you are as a woman and what you bring to the table.
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A Few Things to Remember About Friendships
- Solid friendships should be based on QUALITY, not QUANTITY.
- Healthy and fulfilling friendships are based on honesty, trust, and emotional availability.
- Friendships are not a one size fits all kind of thing.
- The relationships in your life are a two-way street.
In Conclusion
In closing, I encourage you ladies value your friendships, especially the ones with your girlfriends. The challenges we face on a daily basis is enough as it is. Society is relentless on pinning women against one another but we can’t take the bait.
The Comments
Jem Lou
Hi! I thought your post was very interesting, though it does appear more to address those who have purposefully distanced themselves from girl friends due to different issues, it was thought provoking. I hope that as women, we might also be mindful of the girl who struggles to fit in with different groups and, instead of ‘closing ranks’ to newcomers, try to help them feel more at ease, especially if you’re part of an established group, as it’s so hard to try to find common ground with a lot of new people at once. Thanks for posting! X
Monique Elise
Jem LouHi Jem, that is such a great point!! I think at little empathy can go a long way. Thanks for reading!
Dee Jackson
I agree with you that we do need female friends in our corner to help build us up.
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Monique Elise
Dee JacksonThanks for reading!
Finlay grace
Totally agree will with you! We should be building our sister up not ripping them down!
Monique Elise
Finlay graceYup! Say it again for those in the back! Lol, thanks for reading!
Marie
Definitely agree w you! There is no one else who can understand what you go through as a woman aside from other women!
Monique Elise
MarieW O R D !!
Rebecca
I have always had a hard time connecting with women. It has taken me decades to find women who appreciate who I am. I don’t like drama. I don’t like messy. And I have better things to do than to sit around and talk about other people. These are just a few things that have kept me from connecting to other women. Yes, there are men who are drama-kings, but not as many as there are women. Or at least that has been my experience. I love the sista hood, but we can be tough to get along with.
Monique Elise
RebeccaHi Rebecca, thanks for stopping by. I’m sorry that you associate the words drama and messy with women… I believe we are so much more! I have also come to realize that nowadays men gossip just as much as women. Just a little different perspective here :-). I agree, as women we have room to grow and improve. But who doesn’t? Sisterhood is a beautiful thing especially when it’s genuine. Don’t give up hope just yet.
Kristi McAllister
Ohhhh this one is touchy for me, but only because my very best friend of 24 years broke "girl code" with a guy I was interested in a couple of months ago. She knew we were talking and that I was interested in him and didn’t care a thing about it until she found out he was debt free, had a nice house with a pool, and made really, really good money. And what did she do? Pursued him behind my back and spent the night at his house and didn’t tell me until 5 days later. I’m no longer speaking to either of them. I am in total agreement that as women, we need to encourage each other and never cross personal boundaries. Thanks for sharing!
Monique Elise
Kristi McAllisterHi Kristi! I’m so sorry that happened to you!! And I agree with your stance 1000%. You never know they both may have some seriously deep issues they haven’t yet dealt with. I always say – HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE!
Holly
I love this post! So true—women need to lift other women up.
Monique Elise
HollyAmen Holly, AMEN! Thanks for stopping by!
Alicia
Well said! Even if you keep your girlfriend circle small, it’s still very important to have one. The connection you have with your girlfriends is something you will never find with men. We just get it!
Monique Elise
AliciaHey Leesh! I couldn’t have save it better myself! <3
Ciara
My exact thoughts!!!! I was so happy when Issa said that. I don’t inderstand how women are so comfortable with not having a set of good girls friends. Good energy is inviting.
Great post.
Monique Elise
CiaraYes girl me too! I’m really trying to understand why some women feel that way. Thanks for reading!
Astin
BOMB. This post was the BOMB.
Monique Elise
AstinHey Astin! Yassss so glad you enjoyed my post! xoxo