A few weeks ago, I posed a question on my Facebook about women that say they don’t get along with other women. Then like fate, my sister from another mister (in my mind at least) Issa Rae tweeted something along the lines of – “I feel sorry or women who don’t have female friends.” Quite honestly, I couldn’t agree more. There’s something about having a connection with other women that can’t be replaced by relationships with men. And if you ask me – in this cold ass world, a woman needs her girlfriend(s)!
In an attempt to address this topic in an unbiased way, I researched stories from women that justified keeping other women at an arm’s length. Most, if not all, of the justification and/or reasons given can be boiled down to having bad past experiences with females. And trust me I get it! Us ladies can be complex! There are times when we can be mean and downright catty! (Check out my previous blog discussing that here.) But that being said, there is still an undeniable sisterhood that women have no matter what our differences are. That bond is like no other. Men will never understand what it takes to be a woman. No matter how much we try to educate them and provide insight into what it’s like to walk a mile in our shoes – and visa versa. And in today’s society with so much controversy surrounding sexual abuse, feminism, the constant pressures we face to be women – we need one another. I don’t care how many guy friends you have – there is something that simply can’t replace good ole’ girl’s talk, a night out with the girls, or just a unspoken understanding of one another.
No one is perfect and you can have just as many bad experiences with your male counterparts as you do with other females. People are going to be people. Their ill intentions are not dictated by their sex. Further, what happened in your past (bullying, betrayal, etc.) is a part of your story but it shouldn’t control how you live your life today. We all go through shit. I’m sure there are plenty of other women that don’t like me, and that’s ok. But as a woman – if they needed me I’d be there for them. Harboring resentment gets no one no where, and you are only hurting yourself in the end.
In closing, I encourage you ladies (on both sides) to play nice! The challenges we face on a daily basis is enough as it is. Society is relentless in pinning women against one another and this topic plays right into it! Try to be a little nice, understanding, patient and empathetic towards other women. You never know the reason behind their actions or perspective! So – what do you think about women that go against the girlfriend code?